Recently I check my boyfriend's Facebook and I found a private message from a girl. He was inviting her to his house and telling her that he wanted to cook for her and that he cleaned his house and bought groceries just for her visit. When I confronted him, first he got upset because I invaded his privacy and then he said that she was an old girlfriend of his and he just wanted to show her his new apartment and that I had nothing to worry about she has a boyfriend and that he would never cheat on my because that is not the type of person he is. Something inside of me wants to believe him but I just cannot. I still feel that there is something between them, what should I do?

If that was the case then why did he hide it from you? No I wouldn't believe what he's telling you, and I certainly wouldn't be happy if my boyfriend done this to me with an ex (especially because he never cooks for me LOL) but on a serious note you need to get to the bottom of this, there must be more to it than he's letting on. Sorry if this is not what you wanted to hear :(

Thank you for your honesty. I think the same thing and as much as it hurts I rather know the truth. Now the only problem is how to get to the bottom of this because it is clear that he will not tell me the truth.

I know that's the hard part, I'm not sure how you can do this unfortunetly :( but you should trust your instinct, sounds pretty odd to me what he's told you, good luck :) plenty more fish in the sea ;)

Thanks :)

If a guy is being honest and upfront with you they don't hide things and sneak around.

In my estimation a man who does that is cheating. No amount of denying it would make me believe his story.

Its time to get rid of this guy. When he ask why, just simply tell him your are way too busy cooking from someone else!!

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So now that I know that my boyfriend so obviously try to cheat on me, I feel like I need to keep my options open. My ex-boyfriend has always try to talk to me again. He never stop sending me email but I never replied to any of them because I was with my new boyfriend.
But now how bad would it be if I give my exboyfriend a little of my attention? Nothing serious but just email, text here there. What do you guys think, is this fair?

Why had you and your ex broken up? Who dumped whom?

That's the dilemma, we are still together but the other day I found a private message on his Facebook where he was inviting a girl over to his apt. to cook for her and when I confronted him he denied but I did not believe him.

We talked but I'm not trusting him. And if he is talking to other girls, girls he had dated in the past and inviting her to his apt. why can't I do the same? I do not plan on cheating but I will flirt, is that bad?

I said the EX boyfriend, not the current one. What's your history with him?

I would say that your current boyfriend interest is somewhere it shouldn't be---like on another woman. So why even hestitate get rid of him. Obviously he is out looking behind your back!!

An ex-boyfriend who is snooping around always seems like a good idea, unless your smart and remember why you broke up with him in first place. Most actually think that the ex has changed during the time they have been broke up---I always wonder WHY they assume that!!

Take care

Yea I understand what you are saying about the ex and you are right. I don't assume he has changed at all, but I'm only looking for a little distraction like by current boyfriend is doing. I would not get physically/emotionally involved.

Also, I do not think I want to give up on this current relationship just yet.

Honesty and loyalty are high on my list of attractive qualities. If I can't get that then I feel it's a waste of time. Now you can keep this drama going, but lets be real, can you trust him? I sure couldn't.

You are right I can't quite trust him like I used to.