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  • Jan 20, 2011, 01:35 AM
    maximusdamn
    What to do when she doesn't have feelings anymore
    During our relationship,things went smoothly.apart from the occasional arguments on each others mistakes,we would be all right after that.then came the day I offended her so badly up till now she hasn't stopped looking back at it.its been almost a year since she broke up with me but I'm still deeply in love with this girl.she means more than anything else in the world to me.now she ignores me.I have been blaming myself for my mistakes,tried making up to her and still faithful to this day.but she still wouldn't give me a chance to redeem myself.what should I do?when she finally talked to me,I asked what I had to do and she said she only saw me as a friend and nothing more.obviously she doesn't have feelings for me.I can't concentrate on anything else when I think about anything related to her.what should I do?
  • Jan 20, 2011, 08:27 AM
    answerme_tender

    What did you do that made her so angry that she cannot forgive you?
  • Jan 20, 2011, 10:19 AM
    talaniman

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    What to do when she doesn't have feelings anymore
    You build a life without her in it, and stop being faithful to what is now a memory, and a false, unrealistic hope of getting her back. That will help you get UNSTUCK from someone who is not as stuck on you.
  • Jan 20, 2011, 12:37 PM
    Devorameira

    You need to move on. Seems like she's just not been able to forgive and forget.

    Next time you find a new girl, just remember that cheating can ruin things forever.
  • Jan 22, 2011, 08:41 AM
    maximusdamn
    I didn't cheat on her

    Comment on answerme_tender's post

    Called her names.. get angry with things.. get jealous..

    Comment on talaniman's post
    To me,love means a lifetime.I know I love her that's why I can't get myself unstuck..
  • Jan 22, 2011, 09:18 AM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by maximusdamn View Post
    Comment on answerme_tender's post
    called her names..get angry with things..get jealous..

    Comment on talaniman's post
    to me,love means a lifetime.i know i love her thats why i can't get myself unstuck..

    Name calling and jealousy will destroy any good feelings, and is not love, so now that her feelings have changed for you, you may as well learn from your mistakes, and get UNSTUCK, and move on!
  • Jan 22, 2011, 12:53 PM
    maximusdamn
    Comment on talaniman's post
    But what if I can get her back??
  • Jan 22, 2011, 01:37 PM
    talaniman

    What makes you think that? Is that what she said?
  • Jan 28, 2011, 07:49 AM
    maximusdamn
    Comment on talaniman's post
    I believe that God had set this for me.the way I met her the works everything.
  • Jan 28, 2011, 08:15 AM
    answerme_tender

    Max,

    Perhaps God is making this a wake up call to you. Just because you get angry with someone doesn't give you the RIGHT to call them names or yell at them.

    Im not saying that raising our voice when get mad isn't something we all do at some point, but when you allow yourself to get nasty to someone whom you love, then you have over stepped your boundaries!!

    I don't know if this young lady will give you another chance. But take this time to make sure you never get to that type of ugliness again. If you feel that you do have an anger issue, talk to your parents and see what you can do together to learn to control it. Perhaps talk to your minister.

    Take care
  • Feb 26, 2011, 08:13 AM
    maximusdamn
    Comment on answerme_tender's post
    I was angry because of things she did to hurt me.. for example scheduled dates cancelled,ignoring me.
    Its not an angry issue.

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