My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, andhave something really special. We never fight, always talk over things get along great, best friends basically. Sex life is great and there's nothing there. However my boyfriend was always on who used to party and I know that he misses it, and we've talked about it. He is so happy with me he always says and wants to be with me more than anything, which is why we're still together. But he's always wondering what it would be like to be single again because these are the best years of his life. I don't know what to do, we've talked over everything and I've given him the opportunities to choose and every time he chooses for us to stay together, but always has the thought of being single on his mind and it bugs him so much because he doesn't know why. I know its normal for guys to wonder about being single and not be tied down and I've told him I understand that, I obviously don't want to get hurt but I love him and want him to be happy. We're just about to finish school and have said we're both the kind of people we want to marry but I know he doesn't want to be with me for the rest of his life without experiencing more before. But he's scared of us breaking up and being hurt as well as not getting back together again, and me being with other guys. Does a guilt-free pass come in here in this situation? To get it out of his system!. Any advice... what to say to him?.

It sounds like your guy found the perfect girl he's always dreamed of, but he found her before he wanted to. The very fact that he's talking this openly to you about this suggests to me that he wants out of the relationship or worse yet wants you to stay with him while he cheats. The truth is, that if he can't appreciate what he has at the moment then I think eventually he's going to pull the trigger and get out. He focuses too much on it to not take action on it at some point.

Your boyfriend has wanderlust and since he is so young, he can't help looking at the big world and want to be a part of it or try anyway. Until he gets this out of his system he may love you but always wonder what if? Tough choice. You may have to set this bird free and see if it comes back to you. OUCH!

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Originally Posted by mango_rox_2

My boyfriend and i have been dating for a year, andhave something really special. We never fight, always talk over things get along great, best friends basically. Sex life is great and theres nothing there. However my boyfriend was always on who used to party and i know that he misses it, and we've talked about it. He is so happy with me he always says and wants to be with me more than anything, which is why we're still together. But he's always wondering what it would be like to be single again becuase these are the best years of his life. I don't know what to do, we've talked over everything and i've given him the opportunities to choose and everytime he chooses for us to stay together, but always has the thought of being single on his mind and it bugs him so much becuase he doesn't know why. I know its normal for guys to wonder about being single and not be tied down and i've told him i understand that, i obviously don't want to get hurt but i love him and want him to be happy. We're just about to finish school and have said we're both the kinda people we want to marry but i know he doesn't want to be with me for the rest of his life without experiencing more before. But hes scared of us breaking up and being hurt as well as not getting back together again, and me being with other guys. Does a guilt-free pass come in here in this situation? to get it out of his system!? .. Any advice... what to say to him? ...

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If u love each other then u two should be back together if he is happy with u then y is he thinking about beening single if every time u give him a chance he chooses to stay with u then he doesn't want to be single like she said if u love sumone let them go if he comes back then it was meant to be..

Your best option will be the on eyou don't want to hear but homnestly if you wantto give yourself the best opportunity for him to realise he wants to be with you. Well you are going to have to take a chance. Let him go and hope he realises what he has let go.
I know this sounds hard but this is the best way because I guarantee if you don't he will probably end up cheating one time because of the curiosity and even if he doesn't you will be paranoid about times when he goes out with friends thinking maybe he will cause he wants to know what it is like and your paranoia may send him to cheat.

So you are best to go with the if you feel like this your not ready and let him go, if you let him go on tyour terms YOU MUST even if you are not pretend you are moving on with your life. I would say you need to tell him we will have a break cause his not sure what he wants and you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who is not sure.

What will probably happen if you do this and by the way you must when on the break not contact him and don't talk to him let him nothis break means he lloses you as part of his life. AWhile he is on the break you don't want to know what he is doing but the best thing about this is he will have no idea what you are doing and if you are aS GOOD AS HE THINKS HE WILL BE SO WORRIED THAT YOU ARE FINDING SOMEONE ELSE, HE MAY SLEEP WITH A GIRL but he will be thinking of you and it won't be that great and as soon as he sleeps with the first girl who lets him he will realise there is not that much to it and he will want the relationship back. Don't rush back take it easy.

BUT I will tell you one thing while he has the break DO NOT sleep with him DO NOT contact him let him tackle this situation on his own, because if you hang around all you will do is help him out. PLEASE disappear leave him to do this on his own I tell you now its much harder for a guy to do this on his own but if he knows your hanging around he won't realise what his losing I promise.

Disappear and No contact let him wonder what he is giving up...