So I'm in a 4 month relationship that has been verry physical from the start. The sex is incredible and I am able to come and stay erect so it can go on for a while. The problem is my girl friend has yet to get off. She enjoys sex and constantly tells me, as well as from a comment her friend made the other day, her friends how "amazing" the sex is. I have done everything I can think of and nothing even going down on her hasn't yeilded any results. She is the first girl I haven't been able to help reach orgasm. Although I haven't as of yet directly brough up that it is bothering me, from comments she has made I don't think she has ever had an orgasm. I'm lost as to what I should I do, should I talk to her even though it may make her feel pressured to come or feel bad for me when she doesn't, do I just keep learning and reading up on new things I can do. This isn't an ego thing I love her and just want to give as much or more then I get.

I hear your frustration. I think talking to her is a great idea; however, becareful that you do not pressure her. That may only result in her suddenly start having "orgasms" and you will never know if they are real or she is faking.

I would approach it as a game, talk to her about the sex, how amazing it is, how she is a great partner, how much you enjoy being with her (physically and emotionally--assuming that's true). Tell her that you are curious about her lack of orgasms... curiousity is a fairly neutral approach (as opposed to frustrated, upset, angry, bothered, etc... ). Then as the conversation continues, mention to her that you want to look at it as a challenge and see if she is willing to try different things to get there. Then try different things, you know her way better than I can guess maybe she is the romance works her up, maybe she is the kinky type and needs something a bit more intense. Generally, I know most women build to orgasms through time and stimulation, I mean foreplay--physical and emotional/mental.

How old are you?

How old are you?

26

26