Marriage after infidelity
"I found out 8 months ago that my husband was having an affair. We have lived abroad for many years and the affair happened when I was back in the States for 2 months which enabled him to be with a woman from his office who was feeding his ego and making him feel he could do no wrong. We have been to marriage counseling which did help and we have started rebuilding our relationship. However, I continue to have 'visions' of him and his lover together as well as different 'scenarios' that may or may not have happened. My husband has quit drinking and smoking and is on anti-depressants and feels like everything is A-OK. He has been extremely supportive of my feelings and insecurities and has literally done everything right to make things better. Most of the time I feel that we are getting better, but recently I found hard core porn on my computer that he hadn't properly deleted. He told me this was nothing and not to think too much of it and that it would never happen again. This has fueled my insecurities and doubts of our relationship ever mending. What now?
Comment on Devorameira's post
Thank you Devorameira, every little piece of advice helps. My husband has been seeing a Psychiatrist here that can refer us to a counselor for our marital problems, or perhaps see us together herself.
Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
We went to about 10 counseling sessions together, both separately and as a couple before we moved abroad. We have watched porn together but not this extreme stuff I found. Just one more thing that he is keeping from me. My trust is gone for now.