I just found out my ex-husband has another child.
So, my ex-husband and I separated the end of 2008. We had a pretty rough separation but a few weeks later we started talking and working through things, at least I thought. We were separated for a couple months and I expressed to him that I really wanted to stay with him and laid out all our options and told him if we need to stay separated for a while that's fine. A few days after the conversation he told me divorce was the best and that's what he wanted. Through all of that the divorce was easy and amicable. Even though I was heart broken we still acted as if we were still together even though we never said it. I had my suspisions he was seeing other people, and all the signs were there but I guess I choose to not believe it. We took a break in the summer of 2009 and then he begged for back, so I agreed. Then in December of 2009 he made suggestions for our relationship to end, that never happened and we continued our relationship. BTW we have a 3 year old daughter. August 2010 a woman messages me and tells me that my daughter has a little brother and that my ex and her were seeing each other right after we separated up until February 2010. To make a long story short, I confronted him and he said it was true although told me a completely different story that what the other woman told me. So we just found out he indeed the father by paternity test. He says he will have nothing to do with the child. We actually just found out a few days ago and he was taking his anger out on me that he in fact turned out to be the father, and I got very angry of course so we haven't talked in a few days. He says he's a changed person and will do whatever it takes to have a future with me and our daughter. I can tell he has changed a little but I just don't know what to do. He is the ONLY guy I have ever been with and I just want us to be a family. I can't forgive him for this. I don't know how to move on from someone I've known since I was 16. Should I stay and make our family work? If I do I don't think I will ever trust or get over this. I think I am afraid to move on.