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Thanks for the insight, your last sentence there definitely gave me something to think about...
How to do NC when you are forced to see someone?
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I my girlfriend broke up with me a little over a week ago; it wasn't exactly an easy breakup as I still have very strong feelings for her and, from what I here, she still as feelings for me. I have no idea why she broke up with me but its going to take a long time for me to get over her.
Here is the deal though, I entered no contact two days after the break up (the two days were spent being a fool and trying to get her back) and have been fine since, the only problem is that we are both in the ROTC. I'm a senior, she's junior and my position within the ROTC makes it so that I have to have direct contact with all the junior cadets (I am in charge of making sure they are all prepared for their capstone camp, kind of like a mentor). Today was the first day I have seen her since I entered no contact and it was just really weird. Not only was it extremely painful for me but I don't think either of us knew how to act. When I was giving instruction or advice to the group of juniors, she looked like no one was talking and just stared straight forward while everyone else was looking at me. I just treated her like she didn't exist, if we passed in the building I didn't look at or acknowledge her and, while I make a point of looking everyone in the eye when talking to a group, I completely avoided her.
It is making it really hard to move on from what we had when I am forced to see her two times a week and, being a mentor, I see many of the junior cadets outside of the ROTC to help them with ROTC things. Add to this the fact that all of our friends within the ROTC are the same people and we all like to go out to eat before and after ROTC events and I have a real problem on my hands.
I would love for her to come back to me but I know this won't happen and I really need to move on with my life. I was doing OK until today, I just got home and I am completely devastated just because I had to see her. I have no idea how this plays into the whole no contact thing but I feel that because we are forced to see each other its not going to work at all. To me it is clear that we are both dealing with a certain amount of pain and while I could never be friends with her (because I think I may love her) I need to know a couple of things:
How do I carry on with my life when I know that two days out of the week I am going to be forced to see her and subsequently emotionally crushed?
How should I act when I see her and have to be in charge of her while staying in no contact?
Thanks
P.S. I know this is just like the whole "don't dip your pen in company ink" thing, I don't need to hear anything about how dumb and wrong I was to be with someone who I am forced to see