After we broke up, I tried to get back with my ex and send him a small gift for his birthday etc. Didn't mention anything sexual. After a while he called me back and said that all I am trying to do is driven by the fact that we're no longer having sex, and he accused me for having "lust and desire" and said I "forced him to do wild stuff in bed". I clearly remember he fully enjoyed everything we did! Why is he acting this way now? I love him, and even if I do miss sex with him, I miss him way more as a person.

His words prove what a dolt and moron he is... besides being a tool and a jerk.

You are really better off finding someone that actually appreciates you... and its abundantly clear HE doesn't. Please move on before this clown destroys your spirit.

My ex broke up with me a couple of months ago, and recently he tried to approach me sexually again, but I refused him. A few days ago I get an email from his current girlfriend telling me that he showed her intimate conversation of us two during our relationship (including sex talk), and told her of his cheating attempts, saying he's ashamed and sorry for having been involved with me. I feel betrayed and dirty after this - is this normal, and how can I get over it?

Yes it is normal to have the feelings that you're having.

All I can say is move on.

He's a jerk and hopefully his new girlfriend will take all of this as a red flag and move on herself.

Odds are, he will end up doing the same to her.

He's not wroth your time.

He's just being a big jerk and she's just trying to make you mad so she'll never have to worry about you getting back with him.

You need to ignore the situation, totally stop communication with him, and move on. Sounds like you're definitely better off without him!

Regret and shame for what he did. While he enjoyed it at the time it is something that he is now ashamed that he did.

It isn't something that is redeeming to his character. Don't look back.

Don't let some insecure immature young girl throw you off. He was just kissing her butt to make himself look good, and she is showing out.

Ignore them, as you drop to the ground, and give thanks for not being with this idiot any longer. He is her problem now.

My ex and I always had a rocky relationship, and now I understood it was mainly because I wasn't really open about my feelings, didn't say "I love you" enough time or complimented him, or make him feel "manly" enough. I wasn't realizing that I was being complacent and allowed him many disrespectful things.

We broke up and he got a new girlfriend who is super self-confident and has very high standards for her partner, and he was more than happy to jump through many hoops to get to her. He's a changed man, and is happy with her. I just found out they got engaged. I don't want him back (I just wish him happiness), but I can't live with myself knowing that he hates me for not being the woman he needed. Also, I hate myself for not having enough self-respect. Will he ever forgive me, and talk to me again?

Well you live and learn. The best thing to do is to learn from this experience and be a great girlfriend for a deserving man!

Steph_Love:

The problem is, I feel so guilty about everything that I can't look for other men - I just want my ex to talk to me again, and hear me apologize and make amends.

Why does it matter if he forgives you or not. He has moved on and is happy with someone else. Forget about him... he is an ex, so who really cares. Live your live and make sure you are happy.

That's not necessary, nor is it wanted by him. He is busy with other things and you should leave him alone and let yourself heal and realize it was nothing to do with you. You guys weren't meant to be together forever and that happens to most people. Heal and allow yourself to rebuild, and be ready for your next adventure.

I agree why does it matter if he forgives you? Just forgive yourself, move on and try your best in your next relationship.. He was not the one. The one is out there waiting for you and you're wasting your time still caught up in the past..

I would suggest you call him and if he doesn't pick up, leave him a message saying that you bought him a small engagement gift and would like to meet him for coffee and give him a small gift. Hopefully he agrees and accepts your apology!

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Steph_Love:

The problem is, I feel so guilty about everything that I can't look for other men - I just want my ex to talk to me again, and hear me apologize and make amends.

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What exactly did you do that you need to appologize to him for again? I seem to have missed it. In fact, I read through the thread again and only saw rude comments by him... nothing out of line by you.