Five months ago, I fell for a guy, and he fell for me. However during those months, I got scared and pushed him out of my life. Knowing I can never see or talk to him again made me realise how much I need him in my life, and now Im not sure If I can ever get over him. Do I reveal my true feelings and wear my heart on my sleeve or stick it out, and feel the hurt until someone else comes along? Im in so much doubt, I can't sleep, can't eat and it has been five months, It's there in the back of my mind, I know he is happy, but why can't I be? Deep down Im crushed to realise he has gone for good, but I have a glimpse of hope he will be with me one day, What and how should I handle this? I feel so sad turning to an anonymous website but inside Im losing faith and its affecting my daily life. I don't think I can carry on like this and feel so much hurt, I turn to my friends, but they just get bored of me, Im so confused.. :S

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Originally Posted by AOWW91

Im not sure If I can ever get over him.

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Of course, you can! Get busy and stop the pity party. Read books and join a book discussion group, find a new hobby, volunteer at an animal shelter or a library, learn a new skill like baking pies, take a class at a nearby college, join a church, go to a village board meeting.

We've all been where you are now and lived to tell about it. Take the cool washcloth off your forehead, pull up the shades, and move back into life!

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I feel so much hurt

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Why?? He, not you, is the one who is allowed to hurt.

It takes time to heal. The best thing you can do until you've healed is to keep yourself as busy as possible to distract yourself from these pains. Focus on having fun.

Would you mind please explaining why you were scared to continue a relationship with this man.

Maybe you should tell him how you feel and see what he says. After all you were the one to push him away.. For all he knows you don't have any feelings for him at all. I think you should tell him and if he says he doesn't feel the same then you can move on but do you really want to live life wondering what if??

Yes, I don't get it? If you fell for him and he you why not continue? You could have always slowed things down if it was going to fast.

I doubt he will ever come to you since you pushed him away so, it's up to you to go to tell him how you feel( if you wish to do that). Otherwise, you need to shift your focus like Wondergirl stated... get busy, find you passions again, cut out all that idle time feeling sorry for yourself. After that , it just takes time. Best of luck to you.

Get yourself healthy again by putting your life on a much better track, and then figure out why you have so much fear of letting yourself get close to someone. That's all part of getting healthy. You don't need him in your life, you WANT him in it. Maybe its not to late to tell him that, its up to you, but for sure you better look at why you were afraid, and pushed him away to begin with. He may not be up for it happening again, so solve your own personal fears first, then see what you want, and need.