Well for the first time in many years I talked to my dad. I was so scared and nervous because I haven't seen or heard from him for a long time. I was shocked because my mom found him for me because I always wondered where he was. It was really weired talking to him and hearing his voice. I just talked all nice but I was really nervous. He said that he loved and miss me and wanted to see me. But I don't know how to deal with all of this. I am his first daughter. He is doing very well in life but it's just hit me all at once full blast. I want him back in my life but it's really hard and fustrating to do so. How can I deal with all of this? Thanks.

Ask your mom about getting you some counseling. This person will be able to give you tips on coping with this and help with feelings you might have.
Your father is no doubt nervous too. Talk to him about what you are feeling.
You two may be of help to each other.
I hope this will be a good reunion for you both

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Ask your mom about getting you some counseling. This person will be able to give you tips on coping with this and help with feelings you might have.
Your father is no doubt nervous too. Talk to him about what you are feeling.
You two may be of help to each other.
I hope this will be a good reunion for you both

---

Yeah he did sound nervous when he talked to me over the phone. And I will talk to him about how I feel about him and the whole situation. I'm so use to him not being there to the point where I'm not sure if I want him back in my life. I will talk to my mom and see how it goes. And I hope it is a good family reunion.:)

This is good news so far, right?
He won't mind I'm sure if you say that you are nervous and want to keep talking on the phone for a while before meeting in person. If you have Facebook, you could ask him to join and be friends. You can see each other's pictures and write.
And when you do meet, it can be where and when and with whom else you want - mom, a friend, anyone.
It can be in a park, restaurant, coffee shop, bookstore, school playground, out on your front steps.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by joypulv

This is good news so far, right?
He won't mind I'm sure if you say that you are nervous and want to keep talking on the phone for a while before meeting in person. If you have Facebook, you could ask him to join and be friends. You can see each other's pictures and write.
And when you do meet, it can be where and when and with whom else you want - mom, a friend, anyone.
It can be in a park, restaurant, coffee shop, bookstore, school playground, out on your front steps.

---

Yeah it's kind of good new's. He was really nice to me over the phone and he said he wanted to see me in April. But I feel like it's to fast. It's really complicated and fustrating. And yeah I think talking on the phone for a while would be a good start. And thanks.

Why has he not been in your life? (if I may ask)

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

Why has he not been in your life? (if I may ask)

---

Well he and my mom got divorced and my mom moved me and my brother to another state and we just kind of stop having contact with him. But he didn't know where we were and we didn't know where he was either. But now we know now. And me and my brother have didfferent fathers so this is my father. But I'm happy to here from him but it's really confusing since I haven't seen him in a long time.

I wish you the best. A father is so important in a young girls life.
I hope this is the beginning of a good relationship

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I wish you the best. A father is so important in a young girls life.
I hope this is the beginning of a good relationship

---

Thank you so much and I hope so to.