My girlfriend wants a break what's best thing to do
Hi,
Need some advice I've been with my girlfriend for 7 years I'm 32 and she's 25, we have had ups and downs as all couples do, and even split up twice both times not for long as we always missed each other.
We both love each other but we both seem to want different things from life, I'm ready to settle down and have kids but she's never been sure what she wants one min were happy and every thing looks good then the next she says she's been with me since 18 and wants to travel work abroad etc, she also loves to go out clubbing all the time and always drinks way too much and cheated on me about 7months ago I had the speech about how sorry she was and that she hates herself for doing it and it was all down to drink! After thinking about it and finding it hard to decide what to do I decided to give her a 2nd chance and forgive her! Even though she cut her drinking down she's still out every week until the clubs shut! Which I find hard and we do rowl about it a lot..
I know it sounds like I'm a mug for putting up with it but I do love her and I no she loves me! She's just a different person when drunk..
For the last few weeks she's been saying a lot that she loves me but doesn't know what the future holds for us as she's so confused about what she wants said she hates the thought of living without me and could be worst mistake of her life but its not fair on us because she can never give me 100% until she knows for sure what she wants from life!
After a rowl the other day we both decided that its best we have a break so she can sort out things in her head, she's now moved out into her nans and I do miss her already and it was only yesturday that she left, I no I can't be texting her or phoning her and I know I have to give her space, but what does everyone think I should be thinking or doing now!
My girlfriend has left me what do I do now!
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Hi
I have already asked a question on here about my now ex girlfriend, but was just wanting to here some other points of view!
I was with my girlfriend for 7years and we split a week and a half ago, there's a few reasons we split one because I found it hard to trust her as she cheated on me about 7 months ago she was devistated for what she done but still continued going out week after week drinking, which I found really hard and we rowled a lot, also she has been saying that she feels like she needs to do somefing with her life before she settles down (I should also add I'm 32 and she's 25) but what I find confussing only a few weeks ago she was asking when were going to get engaged and married and said about having kids!! Then as I say just over a week ago wakes up on the Sunday after a little rowl on the Saturday night and says she needs time on her own and is moving out then packed her stuff and left!
Since then I haven't done that bad mistake and begged for her back or gone chasing her I'm giving her the space she wants, and I'm getting on doing things to keep busy etc but am finding it hard and didn't help today finding out from a friend that she's now renting her own flat and seems to be enjoying single life? And has even gone for a job interview working on the cruises! I haven't had any contact with her but I do hope she's happy! I'm just wondering if she misses the relationship or not, when she left she left in tears saying how much she loves me and is sorry that she doesn't feel settled in her self and said it could be worst mistake of her life leaving me because of how much she loves me! I do understand what she's saying and I know I have to let her get on with it whilst I have to try and move on! Is there any tips for doing this and does anyone think she may come back to me? She's always been up and down in her way of thinking which makes it hard for me to settle and move on!
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Your right it doesn't make any difference and I know she's gone! I just found it strange that after 7 years she would act that way!