So basically me and this girl were dating for about a year and a half. She lives next door and we hung out one summer with some of our friends and obviously liked each other. We started dating and everything was great. We saw each other almost every day and for a year and a half never had any major fight.

Then out of the blue she told me that she thinks we should take a break. She told me she still loved me and I told her I still loved her. She told me there wasn't any other guy and I think I actually believe that, but then again you never know. She said she doesn't want to lose me but she needed a couple of days where we didn't see each other.

We still talked for the first couple of days after we decided on the supossed break. She invited me over for the night and we had a really great night and she kept talking to me even though she said we couldn't see each other for a couple of days. Finally we had a little 5 minute talk and basically I told her that I was going to give her the time she needed alone and I wasn't going to have any contact with her until she was ready. After I left her house she texted me saying she was sorry and stuff and I said don't worry about me, I'm not mad, I'm just going to give you the time you asked for and call me when you have a decision. That was 2 nights ago and we've had no contact since. This wait is so agonizing and this is the worst thing I've ever had to deal with.

So what are your guys' view on this situation and how can I make this wait less agonizing?

Thanks.

You are a brave man. You acted exactly as you should have, and I commend you for that. Continue respecting her wishes as you have. Remember that anything you say or do can and will be held against you in a court of love. Even when those days are up, you should still wait for her to make first contact.

As for the wait... go out and get physically active. It'll produce endorphins and make you feel better. I know it might be cold, but there's always the gym or an indoor pool. After you've done that, you could try writing down your experiences/how you feel just to let it out. Don't show anyone of course, just do it for yourself.

Overrall, you've done great for yourself. Keep it up. I'm sure you'll find something to do. In the worst case scenario, you can look for funny videos on YouTube.

Thanks for the answer, I appreciate it. I've actually been working out with what little equipment I have in my house. It did help but I'm exhausted lol. The thing that sucks is my friends are her friends and I'm determined for the no contact route.

I'm sorry man I know it's very hard on you , keep doing that , unless she calls you , listen give it a limit of time , life three weeks maxiumo , if things didn't change , you have to talk to her asap.

So you are sitting there waiting for her to contact you, tell you she missed you, and take you back? That's pointless, and absurd, when you should be doing your thing, and waiting for no one. Explore other neighborhoods if you have to, and just because you have mutual friends you should still have your own. Go get some, why don't you!

You dated, it didn't work, you are back to the friend zone, so she dumped you. MOVE ON!

In about a month you could email her, or mail her a hand written note telling her, that she was right, you two needed a break. It was the best thing for you guys. Wish her well, tell her if she ever wants to catch up, she can call you. (Call not email)
Then end the note.
This will put you back on her mind, and wondering why you are enjoying your break so much and make her want you back.
If she wants to meet up, do not talk about you guys unless she does, Be very very positive and happy. She will be drooling all over you again
Good luck

So new news on the situation. 3 days after I ended all contact with her I got a text from her saying "Already seeing other girls?" I was at first confused seeing as how I was at work and had only hung out with guy friends since the break. She said she was pretty sure there was another girl in my car that day, there wasn't, and I calmly told her that. Turns out our friend thought he had seen me driving with another girl and told her and I guess she freaked a little. So what does that mean?

I'm not sure if this is a major break up or anything, at this point I really can't say how serious this is. I think she's just scared and confused about a lot of things right now.

Does this change anything?

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Originally Posted by Valentenez

So new news on the situation. 3 days after I ended all contact with her I got a text from her saying "Already seeing other girls?" I was at first confused seeing as how I was at work and had only hung out with guy friends since the break. She said she was pretty sure there was another girl in my car that day, there wasn't, and I calmly told her that. Turns out our friend thought he had seen me driving with another girl and told her and I guess she freaked a little. So what does that mean?

I'm not sure if this is a major break up or anything, at this point I really can't say how serious this is. I think shes just scared and confused about a lot of things right now.

Does this change anything?

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She wants to be in control of the relationship and is scared you might break out on your own without waiting (like a personal slave) for her to make up her mind.

Did she say anything about the "break"?

I commend you on your cool. Continue NC.

No neither of us have mentioned the break at all.

I agree with the person who said find some new friends. Hang out in places other than the usual ones, and avoid her so you can go back to NC.

It shows her friends are watching and reporting back to her. That and no contact brings curiosity, and you had better stop responding to her taking your temperature by texts also. Just sit back, and do your thing, and keep NC.

Don't forget she dumped YOU. The whole point is to keep you confused. Don't play that game.