I had a boyfriend for 1year and a half but he cheated on me and we ended last summmer but I'm starting to miss the attention . I have one guy who is like my best friend and he like likes me but I love him as a friend but everyone says I should go out with him but I don't want to loose him as a friend... plus whenever I start to like someone they becomes a complete ***! What do I do??

One thing is that you are still not able to jump into relationship atm because you still haven't patched all the wounds you got from your previous relationship , in one of your sentence you did mention how you miss the attention. As for your best friend, you should ask yourself 'do you think that you can see him as special person to you when you have heale your wounds completely?' and one thing to keep in mind is don't let your friends force you into relationship because whoever you choose it is always your right and not someone else, serious and healthy relationship foundation are not made by some 'match up game',just bcause of your friends opinion 'i think you should go out with him' doesn't give you the obligation to go out with him. If you want to go out with him it is because you want to go out with him not because your friends told you to.

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plus whenever I start to like someone they becomes a complete ***! What do I do??

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No pain no gain. Entering relationship with someone means you give them ticket to know you better and they give you ticket to know you better , this could mean both good and bad things , the good thing being you would be able to know them more and grasp their nature as they get to know you better, however the bad thing would be.. discovering their bad characters, yup,knowing someone closer also means that you get to discover their bad characters sooner or later. What do you do is that you should ask yourself whether you ready or not? One who doesn't dare to take pain and risk of being hurt shouldn't jump into relationship

Its easy to miss the good things from a relationship, like great fun times, and the personal attention you once had. We all miss that after a relationship, but we eventually get over it, as we have fun again with family, and friends, and are happy being single.

Just because you want attention, don't just jump in with any one, and be patient, not all guys are a$$es, and you will see that as you heal from the break up, and make fun friends.

Find something you can do on your own without a mans attention.

Oh,how I get you!
I too was with someone who clearly did me no good for over a year.And I really thought I'd say with him and shut down everyone else in my life just to be with him.We broke and after that he still did some ugly things and now I find myself alone wishing I could be with a piece of trash so just so I don't feel like I've been thrown in the trash bin as well!

I don't know how old you are,but sometimes we get to a point where we really want to be with someone nice who'll stay with us for life and give us all the security we need.If we go out fooling around and dating every single guy we see because we're desperate for affection,the chances of us finding a nice partner just get slimmer and slimmer,because a good man will find it a bit worrying that a woman is willing to hang on to every guy she sees just because she's desperate for lve.And going out with your friend is not is not a good idea if you only see him as a friend,if the atraction isn't there then things will eventually go wrong and you risk losing a great friendship.

The only thing you can do is wait and let time arrange things for you.Go out as much as you want and put yourself out there,but really take this time to love yourself and work on your relationship with the most important person in your life:you.It may not seem like it but every time you do something nice for yourself like enjoying that one last bit of cake,or working out,or losing another pound,or buying a new pair of shoes,painting your toenails,signing up for a dance contest,etc,you give a little bit of love to yourself.The small amounts of love you're giving yourself start adding up and yourself esteem grows stronger,and step by step you open the path for someone new and exciting to enter your life.