I have two little girls there dad don't come see them unless its on his tearms. He lived a few minutes away at one point but didn't try to see the girls unless I called him telling him he needed to and then I had to take them to him then he moved two hrs away and for over a yr he seen them a few times maybe 4 this pass summer he moved to main with his mom and I don't want to send my kids there cause he want tell me were they will be are a address he and his old girl friend just had a baby on are youngest one birthday I don't want them not to see him but they want come here to see them cause there is a warnt for his aresst in back child support finely after all that time they did it knowing that he was moving. Overe the pass 9 yrs I've gotten almost 9 thousand dollars to raise both them on and can't get child support to do a thing he has never been locked up are lost his dl for it. I don't know if I can file abondonment charges and still get child support from him are if there is a state thing that can give me some of the child support and the government go after him for what they gave me at the same time maken sure he stills pay what's my kids deserve to grow and plan the life on. My oldest took up cheerleading in the hopes getting into collage and she don't want to do it so please help me so she and her little sis can be kids and not worrie about how they will go to collage if they wish.

Your question is unclear. No you can't get him for abandonment, but you can try to pursue the child support arrears. There are state agencies that can find where he is working if you have his SSN. There are other things you can do.

Unless he has a visitation schedule in place, which I doubt, he can't force you to let the children visit.

And sorry--I was worrying about how to pay for college at age 12.

Teenagers SHOULD worry about college and how to pay for it. NO ONE should get a free ride to college just because their parents want them to be kids. And I was paying for my own clothes, makeup--all non-essential items came out of MY pocketbook--by the time I was 13.

Yes, he should pay child support. But your kids don't "deserve" to have everything they can't afford, either.

And as Scott said--without a visitation order, you don't have to send your kids to him.

My child is eight yrs old and don't get a free ride on anything all the money we come up with goes as one considering that its just me and her other two sister if she wants something she has to work for it been like that the last 5yr

I also feel like until a child is a teenager they should get to be a child and go play not have to help clean and keep eye on others kids to help get money for the materialistic things in this world

Your child is 8, but you've received money over the last 9 years?

My apologies, I assumed your child was older due to the number of years you've been receiving at least SOME support.

And again--if there's no visitation order, don't send the kids.

I would contact the state to find out how you can enforce arrears from another state, because it CAN be done.