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  • Jan 5, 2011, 07:50 PM
    Confusedd1545
    How to get him to talk to me again
    Well long story short, I had a boyfriend for a long time we broke up kind of badly, I was devistated but tried not to talk to him. Awhile later became closer to a guy I knew from friends, we ended up spending every day together and he was my best friend. Then he wanted us to become more but I wasn't ready to move on from my ex. I then contacted my ex to meet up even though he dumped me and he agreed to. Me and my ex got back together and we'v been great since. My best friend got a girlfriend and completely stopped talking to me and told me it was because I broke his heart. But the thing is I feel like I'm in love with him and I miss talking to him so much that it's what I think about everyday, what should I do? I'd be so happy to just be friends again.
  • Jan 6, 2011, 03:22 AM
    LightCross
    I would say bad move.you want to talk to him again I am going to as you : 'would you really be happy if he wre to be your friend?' because if I am in your shoes I won't be happy. Explanation below

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    But the thing is I feel like I'm in love with him and I miss talking to him so much that it's what I think about everyday, what should I do? I'd be so happy to just be friends again.
    You stated that you love him but at the same time to accept him as friend,which is really hard if I should say because treating someone you love just as normal friend is really not easy. Plus the fact that you both have your partner of your own now, he has his girlfriend and you got back with your ex. Befriending the guy means two things :One, you have to see him with his girlfriend everyday and as for his part he would have to see you with your ex who being your current boyfriend right now,which ofc would be very annoying for both part. Second, befriending him with your condition right now is like allowing love to grow between you two, it would be OK to allow the lve grow if you two don't have currrent bf/gf right now, however the situation is different and allowing the love to grow with your present situation here is like planting seed on a place where no sunlight.
    Plus here is one more thing : your ex just gave you one more chance to rekindle your relationship with him and now you been doing great with him, it is best to respect him and not think about another guy
  • Jan 6, 2011, 07:30 AM
    talaniman

    You can't have your cake and it it too! You can't let someone think they have a chance then go back to an ex that dumped you, and get hooked back up, and expect a guy hoping for more than friends to be happy being a friend. That's not fair, honest, and very selfish.

    Leave him alone because, he has to get over that smack in the face you gave him. And you can't force someone to do what you want, when you want, the way you want. You got your boyfriend back, be happy with that. Let him be happy without you.
  • Jan 6, 2011, 06:21 PM
    Bunnyrabbit2310
    It's not fair to your boyfriend for you to love someone else. I think you should break up with him and just have some time to think about your feelings and what you want.

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