Hi I've been married for 6 years now soon to be 7 we had 3 children within a 4 year period we've lost our connection and just wondering if there's any suggestions on how to get the spark going again

Thanks dode:confused:

Leave the kids with people you can trust and go out somewhere. Act like you did when you were boyfriend and girlfriend. I know you guys are married now and you have responsibilities but it is important to remember that the two of you were together before your children came along and you will be when the children begin their own lives away from home. So, the two of you need to remember that you are lovers and a way to do that is to act like you did before you were married. This also helps you remember why you two got married in the first place and hopefully sparks should fly. If not, then let us know.

Even when you're not married, you feel the same way. Go figure relationships and a thing called comfort zone. Our way of life leaves us so busy, concentrating on work and our family that we forget to focus on ourselves and our spouse. You think it's hard for you but for a woman, having to think about her kids constantly and how she's looking at her age, is even harder. I agree with Tamed, you must have your one-on-one time with no interruptions: no kids, no phones. If you've got the money, plan a weekend get-a-way to a near by fancy hotel. Go to the spas to relax your body, get body massages and facials. Give yourselves a make-over. Go out to dinner in your best attire and then back to the hotel to rekindle what you've lost. Try to do this once a month! Change the venues and the activities that will take place. Think romantic! Sweep her off her feet and again and make her feel beautiful! She's got to look it in order to feel it! That goes for you too! Then all eyes will be on you two, on each other! Good luck!

I'm assuming you are the husband, try taking on more responsibility with the kids and maybe your wife will have more energy for you. Give her some time off and she will get the message. Switch places with her for a week and see if you are ready for sex. If you show her you are willing to take on her roll, she may be willing to show you how much she appriecates your efforts. If nothing else, the kids will bond with you.
Good luck
PE