Ive been in a relationship with my guy for 7 years since we were in high school we had our first child together. We have broken up and made up too many times to count so over one of the times that we were broken up he slept with someone else and she wound up pregnant. Now he ended up going to prison for 4 years and now all of a sudden this girls wants to say that he is the father now mind you they have not gotten the test done yet but he still feels like he should be in her life because he thinks and feels deep down that this is his baby I'm telling him like NO YOU Shouldn't BE DOING NOTHING UNTIL YOU KNOW FOR SURE. So sure enough today is the little girls birthday he had this other women drop her off at his house while she goes to work now mind you this other women is playing the guilt trip with him making him feel sorry and **** WHAT IM I TO DO ABOUT THIS stay with him and stand my ground and set the boundaries or leave and let the **** go??

What a sad situation. Do you depend on him to support you and your child? Is he really involved in your lives?

If he has already moved on and wants to be with this other family, I don't think you can make him stay with you. You can tell him what you need in order to stay with him, but you have to realize he might choose not to.

I think you should do whatever would mean the greatest stability for you and your child.

Its been 7years, like you said, your broken up so many times. Don't you just want to move on and find someone that you can call your OWN! A man that you know will be there for YOU, who wants to commit!!

Remove yourself from this situation and make sure your child gets child support and everything else that they are due, and leave him to solve his own crap. 7 years is a long time to go back and fort, so stop going back, and go forth.