My wife says she has a great new innocent friendship with a male co worker.
I'm a 47 year old man and my wife is 39 years old. My wife and I have been married for 9 years and we have 2 children. Recently ( about 8 months) she met this man at work and before long, she and this guy were calling each other and texting each other constantly. Usually the calls were after 10 pm. Her phones now were constantly with her. She began putting her phone on silent. Eventually one day I read her texts and realized that she was texting this man all during the day.
The text were innocent but the sheer amount was cause for concern. She even had sent text to him to a.m. in the morning. When I confronted her about it and she described him as her new best friend who had many things in common with her. What I failed to mention is that this guy is a 20 years old temp, just getting work experience. This guy is 19 years younger than she is.
One can imagine my surprise when after the speaking to her about my concerns she started finding ways to be out with this boy alone, coming home many times after 11 pm when normally she would be home earlier.
She started going to places where she could be alone with this guy: the beach, the park, concerts. One time she even skipped work to spend the day with this man. Another time after 11 pm she and he went on top of a huge 20 ft water tank over looking the area a few miles from where we live. . They had climbed up there and spent time there together. To be fair she told me about it the following day. She was so exited about learning of this high vantage point. I must admit that it was indeed an interesting place. I would not have been there at that hour though . I am not pleased with this new relationship but my wife tells me that its an innocent friendship and that I should trust her because they are just best friends. She even said that I was being paranoid. She and he even went to a lighthouse some 29 miles away on a work day and I only discovered when I stumbled on a picture from her cellphone. When I confronted her and asked why she had not told me about this outing, she told me that she did not want to disturb me at work.
Recently I noticed that she sent pictures of herself to him on her cellphone. (no they were not nude pictures).
Well even though I want to be supportive of friendship outside the marriage, I don't like her new want. Which is to go sea bathing alone with this guy. She prefers now to go alone without the family (our son, daughter and me)
Should I be concerned?