This is simply a question I have wondered for a long time and there seesm some lovely wise people on this site.
Basically I am friends with a much older guy, who I really deep down can't believe fancies me. However he has made a few comments and done a few things which have made me wonder whether I should stay away from him to not encourage.
One when I was crying he said I had a beautiful bow on my lips. This seems a strange thing to notice. He always says Im attractive rather then use the word pretty. And he is quite a touchy feely man with most people but with me he seems to touch me differently(like stroking my stomach as opposed to just putting an arm wound me like he does with others) What does stroking your stomach mean? (and no Im not pregnant :)!!
Plus lately he has started saying "Oh Im touchy feely, does this make you uncomfpryable. And sometimes hel touch me casually but then get really embarrassed and move away from me... Sometimes he won't come anywhere near me? Which makes me think he doesn't. But he does stare at me all the time. When wer around people though he bearly talks to me.
What do people think?

He fancies you BIG time...

Why does he sometimes move away from me/ act awkward/ignore me?

How old are the two of you? 13 and 24? 39 and 58? 63 and 89?

24 and 58

He sounds like a "dirty old man." Stay away. He's too old for you anyway. *shudder*

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I find it strange that you are so worried about your boyfriend, and his female friends, yet so wrapped up in the attentions of an older fellow. No wonder you are so insecure about him, because look at your behavior when he isn't around. Seems to me it wouldn't matter if the old guy fancies you or not, since you do have a boyfriend. Makes me think you are still on the look out for others, while you worry about him. Really confusing to be honest. Or maybe you think your boyfriend is looking around like you are.

If this older guy was fancying you, so what? What are you going to do about it? What if you are just a cute face with soft arms he likes touching and flirting with? Doesn't matter what his motives are, just don't encourage him.

If he did fancy you, would you cheat, or dump your boyfriend?

Him touching you on your stomach is a bit much, over the top. You don't do that to someone you have no relationship with.

He may just be seeing how far he can go with you before you put him in his place.
I find it disgusting

I asked this question because like I said in my original statement I wanted to know whether to distance him and not encourage. I would like tot hink he doesn't fancy me but the evidence suggests he does.

He has the hots for you and is behaving inappropriately. He wants a boost to his ego with a young thing!
You need to tell him to keep his hands off you.

Whether he fancies you or not the reaction is the same isn't it?? Hands off, you have a boyfriend, or do you??