I've been dating this guy for almost 4yrs. We have recently moved in together about 4 months ago. We have always had problem but he always seem to charm his way out of them. He is very sweet and loving but when question about his whereabouts and things he changes and is totally different person. I have 2 kids and so does him. I've been wanted to meet his kids mother's but he always tells me that they are crazy and I don't want to do that yet. I asked to see his phone the other day because I have afeeling that he might still be doing something with his daughter's mother and he gave it to me but flipped out when I stared reading his texts with her. He got very agitated and almost violent.There are many many more stories of things he does. But he always makes me feel guilty for stuff he has done. He turns everything around and feel like he knows how to manipulate me. The more I read about he disorder the more it describes him to a T. Now how do I detach myself from him since I've giving so much already.

Let me see what did the texts say?

And you were going though his phone, reading his text , he got mad and you don't understand why he could be upset ?

So was he taking dirty to her, planning things, or just talking about the kids ?

I bet if someone were to read the symptoms out of a book, they could apply them to you as well or anyone for that matter. Do not try to diagnose him, if you wish to leave, leave.

It is not a good thing to diagnose anyone if you are not a Dr. and if you are selfdiagnosing other people via the internet. Wrong. If he has issues and needs to address them, he needs to see a Dr. of his own free will. If the relationship is in this state and you have trust issues with him, you need to cut it off. Staying in a situation that is not healthy is obsessive and you need to reevaluate why you are in it. Seek counseling for expert advise. Not doing so and telling him he is a sociopath based on your diagnosis is NOT a good thing.

I once thought my ex was a sociopath too.Just like you I was really convinced he was once.And I gave him so much of myself too.The solution?There isn't one,you know what you need to do.And what you need to do is leave,move out,cutt off all contact,really exclude him from your life.It'll hurt a lot but it's all for your best,and time will help you feel better.