My concept of love was that it is something that you could feel for anyone- regardless of the person's gender.

And that happened to me. I am a man and a teacher. I am madly in love with this intelligent and decent guy who is my student. And he is definitely straight. I know for sure.

But I can't control my heart leaping on the thought about him. It yearns for love from him. On the other hand, I am embarrassed about causing disrespect to my position as his teacher as I told him everything.

My heart is bleeding. I have no sleep

Please tell me a way out. Don't I have the right to love somebody I want to?

If it ain't a two way street, then it ain't love, its fantasy!


I feel for you, but its unrealistic to expect love that you want from someone you know cannot love you back. I can only suggest you change your focus from love to living. Not easy, but surely you have a life without him in it, so get back to it.

Maybe you can't help who you have feelings for, or what the feelings are, but you can control what you do about it.

What a leap of logic, to say that love transcends gender and that somehow that means you 'have a right to love somebody you want to.' You have the right to be infatuated, which is what one-way madly-in-love is. You are free to speak your mind to a student about it too, if you are willing to take the consequences, but don't have the right. A teacher should never profess feelings for a student. A student could feel obligated and later regret it and blame you. That's aside from what the school might do first.

I understand that love has no gender, but as an educated ADULT you do have the ability to comprehend right from wrong! Allowing yourself to fantasize about being with a STUDENT is WRONG!! Then stating that you have actually advise this student your feelings is getting to point of being CRIMINAL!!

You are in a position of authority, a position of trust not only by your fellow teacher, but parents and most of all STUDENTS. Every student has the right to get their education without having to worry about a teacher coming on to them.

One other thought here, this is one reason why homosexuals who are also teachers have had to fight for their rights to be teachers!! You are really hurting what they have been fighting for years!! People like you are why they have been discriminated on for so many years!

You are not free to profess your love to a student, because you are in a position of power and influence over anyone you are teaching. I'm sure you can list the reasons this puts the student at a distinct disadvantage, knowing how you feel about him. You have made a huge mistake in judgment and professional protocol and ethics to have crossed that line.

Most universities have specific regulations in place with regard to student/teacher relationships. Relationships are discouraged for obvious reasons, that should be apparent to you.

I urge you to seek professional counselling. Should this student decide to use this information you have given him against you, (ie he may not like his mark, and tell school authorities that you are punishing him for not taking him up on his offer of a relationship), you could lose eveything. IF you realize what you are doing has some serious consequences and seek guidance and counselling in how to deal with it, it will not only benefit you, but may very well save your butt.

Of course you do not say how old you are, or how old the student is, and I am presuming this is at a college or university level.