A couple relationships have passed in the last 10 years, But when it comes to holidays of any kind my children seem to ignore me, don't show, and follow all there mothers orders,
I am married now and my life is good but my children seem to be slipping away.
I miss them and my grand children very much.It seems the more I have and the happier I am the worse it is.
When will this all end?

What are their mother's orders, and why does she give them?

And how old are the children, are they minor children still living at home ? If so there should be visitation orders that need to be followed and enforced.

If they are adults, it is actually more common for adult children to start their own lives and families and not be there to the satisfaction of parents, esp when their parents are divorced, and they are even more split, often between the parents of a partner and then between their partners,

Have you way before christmas talked to them about the importance and actually invited tehm, or planned with them options ?