I am having a baby by a married man who is somewhat separated he has not seen his children or wife in the last 5 years or so I am confused as the divorce process never falls through he can never contact his wife ever I feel so bad on the other hand and want to leave this relationship it's not benefiting me any what should I do?

What should you do about what? Why you wonder about all this after you are pregnant? I'm sorry, but I can't even follow the story, such as 'the divorce process never falls through' - do you mean follow through? Countless spouses make only half hearted attempts to finalize a divorce or even file.

What is stopping you from leaving a relationship you don't want to be in? He's your only means of support? Talk to the Welfare Dept. an adoption agency, or your family.

Hi.. you seem to have several things going on here,with very limited information.You say your having a baby by a married man who is some what separated, who hasn't seen his wife and kids for 5 years and it's obvious that divorce proceedings are in amongst this confusion somewhere.

You are saying that this relationship is of no benefit to you, so finish it!

I hear no mention of love or commitment from either party,in my opinion this relationship has no solid foundation, especially with a baby on the way,he/she will need love and security, not an unstable start in their life which will form a foundation for their future.

You appear to already have made your decision,get yourself settled ready for the birth of your child.


I wish you luck

How long have you been seeing him?

I know it's difficult for you right now, but it appears that he's not really serious about getting the divorce to be with you.

Have you talked openly with him about what you're feeling?

How do you know he is married,

How do you know he is separated ?

He can file for divorce even if he has no idea where his wife is.
He can have a divorce fairly quickly, if he wanted.