I got pregnant with my resent ex's child... or I think anyway. I was honest with him so he knew I had slept with another man during our split. I don't think my ex is the father. However he won't stop calling me or family members? He already said he would hunt me down if he didn't get to see his kid when we were together. I can't just tell him it might not be his kid cause I never know when his anger problem is going to flare up and backfire.

He scares me and I feel trapped. He is already is trying to force the issue about being at the hospital. I went wanting this baby to wanting to give it up. What do I do?

First, YOU control who is at the hospital. If he tries to get in have hospital security remove him. Warn them in advance.

Second, you need to tell him he may not be the father. Tell him when the child is born you will have a paternity test done to determine who the father is. If he is the father you will want him to be a part of the child's life. But tell him his threats and attitude scare you and if he doesn't stop it will make you afraid about his being a father

So you tell him the truth, he may not be the father and you will not know till after the baby is born and a DNA test is done.

If he is a real threat get a order of protection to stop him from contacting you.

He can not be at the hosptial if you do not allow it, you decide and can not be forced.

You need to tell him the truth about the possibility that he isn't the father.

I know he's your ex, but you should be thrilled to know that he wants to take part in this child's life. Many men now-a-days walk away without taking any responsibility at all.

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Originally Posted by Jaded_Dragonfly

He is already is trying to force the issue about being at the hospital. I went wanting this baby to wanting to give it up. What do I do?

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Firstly, he cannot force anything when it comes to the hospital. When you go to the hospital you sign in as a NoPub. This means that anyone who tries to get information on you is told that you are not a patient in the hospital. This means ANYONE. Not mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, etc.

So, if you want certain people to know that you are there, you need to enact a phone tree.

As far as giving it up for adoption, though, he will have to be notified. If he is the biological father, he will have to terminate his rights just as you will.

This can all be done through the hospital's Case Management team so that you and he do not have to be brought together in a face-to-face meeting.

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Originally Posted by Devorameira

You need to tell him the truth about the possibility that he isn't the father.

I know he's your ex, but you should be thrilled to know that he wants to take part in this child's life. Many men now-a-days walk away without taking any responsibility at all.

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Read the OP again...

"he scares me."

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Originally Posted by J_9

As far as giving it up for adoption, though, he will have to be notified. If he is the biological father, he will have to terminate his rights just as you will.

This can all be done through the hospital's Case Management team so that you and he do not have to be brought together in a face-to-face meeting.

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This information may not be true at your location. The laws vary widely on this. There are safe haven / safe harbor laws on the books that allow a child to be given up by just 1 parent. No questions asked. So mostly it depends on where you live as to what can happen in your case.