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  • Dec 24, 2010, 06:15 AM
    MrPayne
    Ex-Wife's Current Husband
    I am becoming more and more sure my ex-wife has formed a company and is funneling her assets through her current husband therefore making it virtually impossible to receive child support and support arrears. Is there a legal process I have to follow to receive all of his personal bank statements, w-2's, etc. since he is technically not part of our open case? Facebook is a great tool, but can also be quite incriminating especially because he is so open with his. He often posts of his new technological buys such as an IPAD, New Mac Computer, New Cameras, etc. He posts photos of he and my ex-wife and their children at various functions and costly events and places - vacations, etc. According to my ex-wife's court documents, they are living in poverty - His Facebook page shows a family of great financial means... interesting... what can be done?
  • Dec 24, 2010, 10:55 AM
    joypulv
    You can keep piddling along in court as you have been, winning judgments and collecting nothing, missing hidden income, thinking about tactics such as 'making' her put cable in her name - good grief - or you can hire a really good aggressive lawyer, or you can have a Merry Christmas and let karma and kids take care of it all. Yes kids, who will understand better as they get older, love you to pieces, and take care of you in your old age as they go to be doctors, lawyers, merchants and chiefs.
    Facebook as basis for lawsuits has an interesting ring to it.
    I just put my will on Facebook, being too lazy and cheap to do it any other way. Hopefully it will catch on.
  • Dec 24, 2010, 11:21 AM
    cdad
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by joypulv View Post
    You can keep piddling along in court as you have been, winning judgments and collecting nothing, missing hidden income, thinking about tactics such as 'making' her put cable in her name - good grief - or you can hire a really good aggressive lawyer, or you can have a Merry Christmas and let karma and kids take care of it all. Yes kids, who will understand better as they get older, love you to pieces, and take care of you in your old age as they go to be doctors, lawyers, merchants and chiefs.
    Facebook as basis for lawsuits has an interesting ring to it.
    I just put my will on Facebook, being too lazy and cheap to do it any other way. Hopefully it will catch on.

    Since this is the law board. The answers need to follow the law and not just opinion. Please keep to that if you want to post here. Your response had no legal advice in it.
  • Dec 24, 2010, 11:56 AM
    MrPayne
    Comment on joypulv's post
    I have spent more than $50,000 on attorneys in those early years of the court hearings (2000-2003) - who has money for attorneys at this point! I have placed higher focus on winning the custody aspect to the cases in prior years.
  • Dec 24, 2010, 11:56 AM
    MrPayne
    Comment on joypulv's post
    Believe me, it's easy to sit back and make judgements based on a few paragraphs but you hardly have a clue what has gone on in 10 years in matters involving this case.
  • Dec 24, 2010, 12:11 PM
    cdad

    The only thing you can do at this point is follow the paper trail and see where it leads. Depending on the state if the law states that in a marriage things are community property and the business was started during the marriage then you may have a right to see the records so you can do forensic accounting. It would involve a lot of paperwork at this time and the courts would have to be involved. If challenges take place it gets even deeper. If the business was started during the marriage then "she" would be entitled to 1/2 the benefit regardless of who's name is on the title. It's a long hard road to follow. And you may need a sharp lawyer to get it done because you will be crossing lines and making arguments as to why things are and must be included.
  • Dec 24, 2010, 03:20 PM
    MrPayne
    Comment on califdadof3's post
    Wow! This is what makes the legal process so difficult, and why I tend to be at a loss - I can no longer afford high-powered attorneys - and, usually once a case begins, she starts a new custody case to divert everyone's attention.
  • Dec 24, 2010, 07:04 PM
    joypulv

    I feel terrible about your whole situation and it made me sound angry at you when of course I am angry at your ex. I had read all your past posts and thought legal was covered, and threw in my emotional 2 cents. If I had 2 cents+50K...
    I do see today that you have a son who does come back to you now that he is 18, so feel that at least I made a pretty good prediction on that front.
    BUT I do apologize for what I said and how I said it.
  • Dec 24, 2010, 07:26 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    though the court, you can try and get a court order for the records, also as noted hire a PI to get all the info they can, as to life style, and actions. Then you make them explain it in court.
  • Dec 25, 2010, 03:23 AM
    MrPayne
    Comment on joypulv's post
    Joyyyyy... this post means more to me than you will ever know! This case spans nearly 11 years and there is no way I can communicate every detail. I have been through rape allegations, molestation allegations, you have no idea - TRUTH always prevails
  • Dec 25, 2010, 03:27 AM
    MrPayne
    Comment on joypulv's post
    That being said, I spent every dime I had fighting those things and proving them false - the greatest blessing I have are children who truly and honestly honor and respect people - they are a blessing to society and highly respectful to everyone
  • Dec 25, 2010, 03:27 AM
    MrPayne
    Comment on joypulv's post
    Your post means so much! Thank you - Merry Christmas and may every good and perfect thing come your way in 2011!
  • Dec 25, 2010, 03:29 AM
    MrPayne
    Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
    Thank you for the response! Honestly, Chuck... it's very difficult at this point, financially to hire attorneys and/or PI's.. I'm doing everything I can...
  • Dec 26, 2010, 01:22 PM
    ScottGem

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