Last night I had a huge huge argument with my boyfriend. We never exchanged such bad words ever before. I know I made him feel so bad. And I'm terribly hurt too.. the thing is he thinks I hate him and I'm tired of him. I suffer from mood swings but I love him. I haven't talked to him for the whole day today, neither he has. And I feel like crying so hard.. I almost cried whole day I'm so upset. I just don't know what to do? Everything reminds me of him.. But I know he's not going to talk to me so easily and I want him to be the one who talks to me first. Wat should I do? I need serious help! Im in choasss! :(

Why are you having mood swings?

I don't know wats my problem. I get bored of things so easily. And sometimes I get bored of talking to him the same things over and over again... he feels the sudden change and here it goes.

Just getting through our teenage years up till we are even in mid 20's we are still learning how to control our emotions ups and downs. With the convenience of texting and cell phones its great in a lot of circimstances, but for relationships it has caused too much of a convenience. We text or call all the time, so there is never a surprise about what is happening to us as individuals. So when we are together what do we talk about that we haven't already texted!! We have forgotten that being a couple doesn't mean that we have to be siamese twins.

Explain to your boyfriend that you care for him but that you need to have time for yourself, to be with friends, or just to be alone. Advise him that talking over phone once a day, or seeing each once a day is enough US time!

Good luck

Here's an analogy, you both want to walk up the stairs together, but you haven't even figured out where the staircase is, so how can you start walking up? The reason you don't know where the staircase is, is because you don't know how to find it. The more you can't find the staircase, the more frustrated you will be with each other.

Finding the staircase is like figuring out what you want. Your mind sounds like it's all over the place.

Once you've figured out what you want, then you can start walking up. So until you've sorted things out in your mind, it's better to keep some distance until then, so that you don't explode on each other again.

Thank you! I think I've to make a decision here.