My father is giving me hints on taking a dna test. Can you believe it ? His reason is because everybody says that I look 100% just like my mom. And no way that I'm his bio-daughter (that's because even my skintone and features , none resemble him) . It's so stressful when people are giving such negative thoughts about my mother and all those slander . My mother said that I am in fact his daughter . I would really want to have a dna test , to prove them all wrong , and that I am in fact his bio-daughter. But I am also aware that if the test result coma back negative , it would impact all out current lives. (fyi, both my parent have been divorced since I'm 2 years old , and have since remarried , I now have extended family members of step-mom, step-dad and step & half brothers and sisters) I am really lost.. I don't know whether I should take the test or not..

It's very upsetting when even the closest of family members thinks that my mom has done something wrong. I really love my mom. And I wouldn't even let anyone or anything hurt her. She's the best mom that I could ever asked for, but I wouldn't want my father to live and die without knowing the truth. The situation is so stressful.

What effect ?

Would this be a court ordered test, or just a drug store test.

A drug store tests changes nothing,

Also the fact many places, another man would have little rights to even file in court for any rights, at this point, in some places they could. So what would your father want to do with the test.

Its more of emotional effects , we're so happy now . And suddenly all these rumors about my bio-father really upset me. I don't want to ruin everything that I have now . But I don't want my dad to have negative thoughts about my mom or me.

I mean what if the result came back negative. What would my step-dad think of my mom, what about the feelings of my step-siblings. I couldn't do it. I couldn't afford to hurt everybody. This only proves those "rumors" to be true , wouldn't it ?

If I were in your in your shoes I would have nothing to do with this nonsense.

I would tell my father that he is my father as far as I am conerned and that's that... end of discussion. If he doesn't like it, that's his tough tooty!

He's been legally established as your father and clearly is trying to get out of supporting you. Depending on the state you're in it may or may not matter whether he proves biological parentage but you have no obligation to consent in any event. Do it if you want to and are an adult - otherwise your mother needs to consent to any testing.

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Originally Posted by dontknownuthin

He's been legally established as your father and clearly is trying to get out of supporting you. Depending on the state you're in it may or may not matter whether he proves biological parentage but you have no obligation to consent in any event. Do it if you want to and are an adult - otherwise your mother needs to consent to any testing.

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From reading the OPs posts, I don't think it's about support at this time. I believe the OP is of the age of majority.

It seems this is just the father wanting to get back at the mother because the OP doesn't look like him.