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  • Dec 17, 2010, 09:37 PM
    lonelyandhurt28
    My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me 3 months ago and we got on a drama rollercoaster.
    So long story short, we were living together and I truly loved her. Lately we got into a lot of arguments, she wanted to be out by her self most of the time and there was no room for me in her life. Finally she broke up with me and moved out. I got into deep depression for a month and just kept working non stop like 30 days so I can get my head out of it. We met up few times, had sex couple of times. I moved out of the area to a new place and then she start sending me messages every 8-10 days. Telling me that she loves me and I`m her soul mate. That she misses me and not to call her?! I`m so confused, every time I get messages like that I`m like sick for 2-3 days before I get back to normal. I still love her very much and want things to work out, but is there any chance or she`s just pha-king with me ? Last time I text her to set her head straight and decides what she wants and that I won't interfere in her life any longer and if she wants to meet me and talk to call me. She just text me back 8 days later... " I love you and your my soulmate. Please dont call me. I just want you to know ! " I didn`t respond and then an hour later " I miss you " I replied asking her how she is and what's going on and didn`t get an answer at all. PLEASE HELP. I think I'm going crazy
  • Dec 17, 2010, 11:02 PM
    ironhide262
    Sounds like your ex is very confused and she doesn't know what she wants! Don't you think you have been on this rollercoaster ride of craziness long enough?

    Please go NO CONTACT( read the stickies at the top of the relationship page)... don't call or text her or reply to her calls or texts. She needs time to sort herself out and as you have already experienced, tagging along with her only gives you misery and heartbreak! All these confusing texts will mean nothing in the end when she finally sorts herself out, moves on and leaves you in the dust!

    LET HER GO! Do this for yourself... get your life back, get happy again!
  • Dec 17, 2010, 11:56 PM
    CarrotTalker

    Yea that would drive anyone crazy!

    It's completely ridiculous that she is telling you how much she loves/misses you but refuses to talk to you. Quite a mind-game/ego-boost she's doing!

    Your best bet is to completely cut contact with her and tell her to stop messaging you. Tell her why too and don't buy any more of her games!
  • Dec 18, 2010, 12:31 PM
    talaniman

    Get off the roller caster and ignore her because, she is indeed pha-king with you, and you are letting her. Change your number, or whatever it takes to cut ALL and ANY contact with her whatsoever.

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