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Im 15 turning 16 and got lied to by a girl about her age and I like her.

Hi, I am ricky and I am 15 turning 16 in June. I met a girl at a thing called an all-night skate which is basically a lockin. She said that she was 14 turning 15 which would have been great but after getting to know her and REALLY starting to like her she told me a day later on the phone that she was indeed 13. :eek: I almost pissed my pants, Im so confused and I think that the best thing to do would be to just stay friends with her until she turned 14 or 15. The last thing I would want to do is hurt her and this is the only solution I have. I wasn't mad but I was just kind of unhappy with the fact that I got to know her and like her only to find out she was only 13. Is she too young, I think so. But she is actually really mature for 13, I talked to her for almost 5 hours straight at the lockin. Also, she trusted me when I was teaching her how to skate and she again trusted me enough to hold her in my arms and keep her warm( it was cold as hell, cheap heating system) and she even fell asleep in my arms. But I also think that she might just be getting introduced into this so I don't want to hurt her or anything like that. Im just really confused and need help.

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When she's FIFteen, you'd be EIGHteen, and in America,. that's rape.
I think if you like her, you reall really like her, you should just stay friends!!
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Looking older than you are is not a sign of maturity.
Liking someone and immediately telling lies about yourself is not a sign of maturity.
Meeting someone for the first time then falling asleep in their arms is not a sign of maturity.
A 16 year old dating a 13 year old is not a sign of maturity.
You talking to someone for 5 hours and not even being able to tell her stories don't include any real info above Jr. High is not a sign of maturity.

So, now that we've got all that out of the way, what are you confused about? The only thing you know for SURE is that you two shouldn't be hanging out, what little time you've had you were led around by the nose, you can't trust your own eyes or instincts... have I missed anything?

Oh yeah, you LIKE her! Oh well, in that case, forget everything else and date the Jr. Higher. I'm sure it's fine since you like her. It's not about using your head at all, so...

Sorry you don't need to be dating a 13 year old,

Time to think seroius and act mature

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

sorry you don't need to be dating a 13 year old,

Time to think seroius and act mature

Yeah that's what I was thinking so ummmm. Yeah that would be weird to me, that's the first thing I thought when I found out too. And just so the other guy who answered this knows I knew she was in jr high, I just thought she was held back or something. But still, I know that I shouldn't be and I don't even know why I even asked that question when the answer was so obvious. P.S. IM ATHEIST haha. And to let you know I'm mature enough to make the right decisions and knew from the start that she is too young, she probably is still just a kid inside and she probably still has a lot of growing up to do and I already have done some of the growing up that I need too do haha. But I believe ill grow up the rest of the way ounce I'm in the marine corps. And plus, its not like I'm a bad kid for this, I was lied to and yes like the other person said that is in fact a sign of imaturity. So after thinking about it I am not confused just frustrated with being lied to and" led around by the nose" even though I could never do anything to hurt a girl she is indeed wayyyyy to you( at least at our age, if we were older it would be nothing but now it means a world of difference.

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

Looking older than you are is not a sign of maturity.
Liking someone and immediately telling lies about yourself is not a sign of maturity.
Meeting someone for the first time then falling asleep in their arms is not a sign of maturity.
A 16 year old dating a 13 year old is not a sign of maturity.
You talking to someone for 5 hours and not even being able to tell her stories don't include any real info above Jr. High is not a sign of maturity.

So, now that we've got all that out of the way, what are you confused about? The only thing you know for SURE is that you two shouldn't be hanging out, what little time you've had you were led around by the nose, you can't trust your own eyes or instincts...have I missed anything?

Oh yeah, you LIKE her! Oh well, in that case, forget everything else and date the Jr. Higher. I'm sure it's fine since you like her. It's not about using your head at all, so...

I don't remember saying that any one of those was a sign of maturity now did I. That's what I thought, but now I knew it was all wrong and a mistake but I was just coming on here for a second opinion. So why don't we try not to bend words, hasn't that been done enough with religion haha. But getting back with all seriousness I know that maturity is projected in how a person acts and carries themselves, now please don't underestimate me I may only be 15 but I'm not stupid. And just so you know the way you wrote this answer will most likely have people questioning your maturity to some extent.

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Originally Posted by Trandy

when she's FIFteen, you'd be EIGHteen, and in America,..................that's rape.
I think if you like her, you reall really like her, you should just stay friends!!!!
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You know you contredict yourself by agreeing with the other two answers right.

Yeah, I know sarcasm is a clear sign of IMmaturity. In that, I am guilty as charged.

But, everything I said MINUS the sarcasm is still accurate. And I'm glad you see this for what it is.

P.S. 15 year old atheist? Wow, that's gutsy. I didn't know nearly enough at 15 to be able to so absolutely decide something as critical as that. Good for you, I think.

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I talked to her for almost 5 hours straight at the lockin.

Just a note for the future, never trust someone until you know them. I can only guess what the conversation was about that didn't clue you in, or make you suspicious.
Having said that, you get a pat on the back for doing the right thing after you found out.

If she had to lie about her age, that shows she's the immature one

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

Yeah, I know sarcasm is a clear sign of IMmaturity. In that, I am guilty as charged.

But, everything I said MINUS the sarcasm is still accurate. And I'm glad you see this for what it is.
IM NOT QUOTING YOU I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO REPLY TO AN ANSWER OR WHATEVER, IF YOU COULD TELL ME THATD BE GREAT:p

P.S. 15 year old atheist? Wow, that's gutsy. I didn't know nearly enough at 15 to be able to so absolutely decide something as critical as that. Good for you, I think.

I will admit that I was actually imature to some aspect, I shouldve paid more attention to signs but there were too few to see I guess haha. But yeah, I do kind of fall for girls too fast... IM TOO NICE haha. Well thanks for the help clearing my head. I guess I just needed that final push in the right direction.:cool:

When you click on QUOTE USER and the screen pops up, you can delete out the parts you don't want, delete the unwanted quote info between the two "quote" flags. Just leave in the part you're actually responding too, then put your answer below the /quote flag.

BTW, don't be too hard on yourself. Look around. There are a TON of guys your age who don't care at all about their actions and the effects they have on others or even themselves. The fact that you care enough to work on it speaks volumes!

Now, remember all you've learned in your next adventure in dating...

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.................................................. .................................................. .................................................. .................................................. ...You know you contredict yourself by agreeing with the other two answers right.

I don't know if what you think I said was actually what I said... so if you'd go back and reread what I actually said, maybe you'd get it... but that's OK, because it sounds like you get it... Attachment 8860

... get it?

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I don't know if what you think I said was actually what I said...so if you'd go back and reread what I actually said, maybe you'd get it........but that's ok, because it sounds like you get it................................................ ....Attachment 8860

..................................get it?

Yeah I do get it haha
I was joking and being serious at the same time :rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by ricky0604fh

Hi, I am ricky and i am 15 turning 16 in june. I met a girl at a thing called an all-night skate which is basically a lockin. She said that she was 14 turning 15 which would have been great but after getting to know her and REALLY starting to like her she told me a day later on the phone that she was indeed 13. :eek: I almost pissed my pants, Im so confused and i think that the best thing to do would be to just stay friends with her until she turned 14 or 15. The last thing i would want to do is hurt her and this is the only solution i have. I wasnt mad but i was just kinda unhappy with the fact that i got to know her and like her only to find out she was only 13. Is she too young, i think so. But she is actually really mature for 13, i talked to her for almost 5 hours straight at the lockin. Also, she trusted me when i was teaching her how to skate and she again trusted me enough to hold her in my arms and keep her warm( it was cold as hell, cheap heating system) and she even fell asleep in my arms. But i also think that she might just be getting introduced into this so i dont want to hurt her or anything like that. Im just really confused and need help.

Well I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19 turning 20 so I don't think it is a big deal if you really like her you shouldn't think that it's a big deal either plus look at it this way if she's was 30 and you were 33 no one would even see the deference. So I say you should give it a shot

As far as age goes there nothing wrong with a 33 year old dating a 30 year old, but some states there a problem with the OP situation.

If you engage in any sexual act with this girl you might can go to jail, so why don't enjoy your youth and date someone your own age, the risks are too high, and jail is not pretty!

To all that say go for it.
Is "love" worth going to jail for?

Unless you think you could grow to love"bubba" say NO! To 13 yearolds!!

I think all these comments are really cruel! I'm 16, so I'm not guna patronise you like some of these people did.
I don't get why her being 13 is such a big deal? It's only 2 years. Lots of girls my age are with 18 year olds, I recently dated a 19 year old
As for it being illegal when you're 18, relationships at our age don't tend to last that long, and nobody will ever punish you for it unless she decides to report it, in which case she's not the type you want to be with is she!
You sound like you really clicked, so if you really fancy her why not go for it? If you're too embarrassed or think you'll get taken the mick out of that's cool, don't do it then. Basically follow your instincts, age doesn't really matter when it's 2 years.
JBeaucaire is being really patronising and doesn't seem to understand young people.

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Originally Posted by hjpan

If she had to lie about her age, that shows she's the immature one

I think it's fair enough she lied about her age, it sounds to me like Ricky wouldn't have bothered getting to know her if he knew her age which is quite shallow, so well done her, because now she's got you interested! She was probably just a bit embarrassed about it.

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Originally Posted by kateuk

JBeaucaire is being really patronising and doesn't seem to understand young people.

(chuckle) Well, I am definitely patronizing, I'll give you that. Being cool-headed towards people helps in places like this where emotion so often gets the best of you, I don't apologize for that. Being patronizing at least doesn't make my suggestions wrong.

As for not understanding? Interesting thing to be accused of by a 16 year old who thinks the situation being discussed is "no big deal". Truly, I'm surprised to hear you don't like what I had to say. I'm floored.

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Well thanks for the help clearing my head. I guess i just needed that final push in the right direction.

It seems your concern missed the part where Rick has moved on. Ah well, next time then. Back to the playground and fish tanks.

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Originally Posted by JBeaucaire

(chuckle) Well, I am definitely patronizing, I'll give you that. Being cool-headed towards people helps in places like this where emotion so often gets the best of you, I don't apologize for that. Being patronizing at least doesn't make my suggestions wrong.

As for not understanding? Interesting thing to be accused of by a 16 year old who thinks the situation being discussed is "no big deal". Truly, I'm surprised to hear you don't like what I had to say. I'm floored.

It seems your concern missed the part where Rick has moved on. Ah well, next time then. Back to the playground and fish tanks.

Haha, all right, calm down. For someone who has children of their own, you don't seem to be very appreciative of young people's attitudes or views. I know we're all young, stupid and have no clue about the 'real world', but there's no need to be rude, really...