my husband treat me and step daughter unfair
Every year my husband always buys my step daughter an expensive gift with a birthday party. In the opposite side, he neglects my feeling for my birthday. He never celebrate my birthday before. Last year, I just wanted him to make me happy, so I texted him to remind him. He came home that night with a cheap-.. ss fan teddy bear for my birthday. I am not a 9 yrs old grl who likes toys or candy. When I saw that teddy bear hidden under my blanket, I was so disappointed about him because I thin I deserved more than that. I turned on the fan , it was not working. I told him that this is not right.what make you buying this cheap gift for me. You valued me so low and only could deserved this gift from you. I threw that broken fan teddy bear ($7) into the trash can. He said he doesn't have money. I felt so sad and didn't talk to him for a day.
Last Tuesday, he came home with a new iPod touch to surprise my step daughter for her birthday. It cost almost $350 and also he's going to celerbate her birthday this Sunday. The party cost about $300. I was lying on bed and the memories brought me back to the broken fan teddy bear. I cried so hard under blanket. My husband came in the room. He heard me sniffing. He thought I was sick but when he saw me crying, he just went to the restroom and ignored me. Later during the night, he finally asked me to see why I was crying when we were on bed. I didn't tell him at the time. I pulled myself away from him and didn't look at him or answer him, I just cried like a baby.
the next day's morning, I texted him a message about how he treat me and his own daughter unfair. He only made his daughter happy and always neglected my feelings. He always said he don't have money to buy stuff for my birthday, christmas and so on, but why he always has money to buy his own daughter expensive gift for her birthday and christmas and also celebrate her birthday everyyear. I told him that he never think about how I feel or what I wanted from him. When I wanted to spend time alone with him, he always hang out with his friends at his friend's shop drinking. I told him that I am very sad and disappointed for what he did . I am his wife for 5 years and only deserved a broken fan teddy bear.
he came home that night and said I am so selfish. He said I always being selfish and compare with his daughter. I told him that I don't compare anything with my step daughter but at least he has to make both of us happy. He shouldn't only make one person happy and neglect the other. He asked me to see if I see him buying anything for him. I told him that he has two women in his life, he has to make everybody happy. I don't expect him to buy me an expensive gift for my birthday, christmas but at least a decent gift, not a broke fan teddy bear . Or at least take me out dinner for my birthday . He can buy a nice sexy shirt only cost &20 or a romantic sexy sleeping clothes only cost $40 and he can make me happy and brighten my day. I didn't expect him to buy me a brand name gift. There's a lot of ways to make his wife happy. He didn't say anything.. he just said step mother never love her husband's daughter and shaked his head. He just ignored what I told him. So I just left the house and went to my parent's house for 2 hrs because I don't want to argue with him about that. Later at the night , he didn't sleep with me, he went to sleep in his daughter room.
I am very sad every time I think about that. I just wanted him to make me happy also, not only his daughter. Any suggestion or recommendation. I really need your valuable advices.