Hi I'm 19 and still a virgin which is weird in this day and age, any way my boyfriend and I are always texting about what we'd do to each other. He always described in great deal what he'd do to me that always makes me wet but when its my turn I always feel like I'm repeating the same stuff because I am. He's likes kinky and is into to bondage and so am I but when he asks what I'd do to him, I'm lost and words can anybody help be out with some ideas I have nails, biting sqeezing but it not enough... please help!

First no, 19 and a virgin is quite common, not sure why you think it is not. Except TV and movies which make everyone seem like animals or sluts of some type, jumping into any bed they pass.

Next if you are not into or not sure, don't text or say things you don't feel for real. If you are more into romance, then describe that.

What do you think about when you masturbate?

Do you want to share your fantasies with him or plots from books and movies? If this is supposed to be about you and him, then you need to think about your own fantasies and share those. Even if it is the same thing over and over again.

Maybe write down your fantasies on paper to feel your way around finding the words for what you want to say to him.

You don't always have to be 'kinky'. Write what is on your mind.

You know what? Sexting is the stupidest new thing ever that people think they need to have in their relationship to have... whatever. I don't know what the heck it is, honestly.

Look, sexting is GREAT---if you're both into it. And if you're both sharing your FANTASIES or ideas or whatever.

But the number of people that need help coming up with what to say astounds me. If you don't know what to say, nothing WE can tell you is going to work. If you want a plot, either go to the library for some erotica or go rent a porn flick.

I just honestly don't understand why someone would want to have someone ELSE come up with sexy things to say to your boyfriend. Would you want me to text sexy things to your boyfriend without going through you? Well, then why would you want to use MY words in the first place? Use your own thoughts and words, and if you need new ideas then you need to start thinking about what you REALLY want to happen, not what you think sounds sexy.