She is the first person I have ever loved truly, but she has previously had an older boyfriend (like 4 years older than me) wer only 16 so I no I am still yong so shouldn't wurry about this stuf but it feels like she still likes him but she ses she don't. But I hear a lot about him and he sounds so much better than me and with him being older could do more for her. I was just wondering if people think I'm being silly and what I should do :( she also admitted to missing him when I asked her about it I'm really :S and he has rung her up (apparantly drunk) saying he wants her back and I am scared I'm going to loose her :(

How old is she that she has had a 20 year old boyfriend?
You are feeling insecure and her talking to him and about him is not helping. Have you talked to her about how you feel?
Are you the rebound boyfriend?
You might want to leave this girl alone

I wish I could answer your question bro. Im in the same situation. But I can assure you, just because you're a guy doesn't mean you don't have feelings. Were all humans and we all hurt inside. Ou don't sound silly mate. You care for her and love her that's what matters.

The best thing you can do is talk to her to get a sense of how she feels about your relationship and this ex. Remember actions speak louder than words so, no matter what she tells you pay attentions to her actions. Trust your instincts on this. If it feels like she is not into your relationship then she probably isn't. If that is the case then it's time to end it an move on.

At your age you are just getting into the dating game. One thing that you must never forget is to always try to look at relationships objectively... put your emotions aside and look at facts(one of the hardest things to do for most of us). Never , ever feel that you are not good enough for someone. If you poured your heart and soul into a relationship and at the end of the day she left you then, so be it! You will find a girl that appreciates you just as much as you do her!

I've tried that and she ses I'm being silly it was this year that she met him but she has had other boyfriends since it just feels like she isent over him but I think I'm just being silly :/

I think you are using you head.
She has dated a 20 year old and has had other boy friends after him then you, and she still hears from him.
I would wonder about things too. I think this girl may be a bit more than you can or should handle.
Pay attenetion to the red flags young man. There are a lot of them here.