Hello,
I have a serious relationship of about 6 months everything is OK and we were heading for marriage.the thing that happened is that he had a fight with his mom and they are not talking his he told me not to go to his house but I went because I couldn't say no to his mom she wanted to see me when I went to his house he sent me a message saying " we are finished take care and do not call me again " I sent him a million 'forgive me 'smses bu I got no reply this is the second day and he still hasn't spoken to me... I don't know what to do I am soooo devastated I wish to die... I love him sooo much I don't want to lose him... he is my everything I want to marry him.. he is the one for me... PLEASE HELP ME OUT PEOPLE IM SOOOO BAD...

I think he just need time. He had a fight with his mom and by you going to his mother house when he asked you not he probably feels like you were standing by him and respecting his wishes.. Give him some time, if you all were in love like you say and was talking about marriage 6 months into the relationship then he just upset right now. He will call and text but give a day or two but do let him know that you are there for him.

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Originally Posted by rachelaki

hello,
I have a serious relationship of about 6 months everything is OK and we were heading for marriage.

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It's like you're speaking a foreign language, I just don't get it... A "serious" relationship of 6 months? "Heading for the marriage"?
How old are you?

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twhen I went to his house he sent me a message saying " we are finished take care and do not call me again " I sent him a million 'forgive me 'smses bu I got no reply this is the second day and he still hasn't spoken to me...

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So he ended the relationship (the serious one, headed for the marriage) because you went to see his mom against his wishes and he doesn't want to talk to you anymore.

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I don't know what to do I am soooo devastated I wish to die... I love him sooo much I don't want to lose him... he is my everything I want to marry him.. he is the one for me... PLEASE HELP ME OUT PEOPLE IM SOOOO BAD...

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First of all, calm down. It's been only 2 days. Second, why do you want to marry someone who leaves you for something that could be solved with communication? I get it, you think he's "the one", but would "the one" dump you for such a simple reason?

How old are the two of you?
This does not sound like a serious relationship. It certainly is not a long one.
Perhaps this is just the beginning of seeing how immature he can be.
You two need a break from each other. Perhaps you will find you are not even ready for or meant each other.

First off I agree with homegirl on this one.

What you need to realize is that he feels as if he lost your trust. He was upset with his mom and asked you not to go there. By going there he feels as if you took his mother's side and left him out to dry.

Give him time! However, I do feel as if this is a glimpse into the future abit and maybe this time apart is what is needed. You say you love him and want him and want to marry but...
at 6 months, one must be careful not to jump on board too soon!

Ok, so maybe he could have been a little more diplomatic about the break up. And maaayyybeee 'mom' was an excuse.

However, I do believe that "the one" was actually doing you both a favour, instead of "heading for marriage" he saved you both from a "head on disaster".