I am in the same situation. My husband is wonderful. but sexually I find myself thinking about a woman. He always tease to get a girlfriend and include him, but if I were ever to get the nerve to try it with a girl, he doesn't understand that I don't want the male factor included in this party. I wonder if that makes me gay. Male gender sex to me is like a job, and something I have to do as a wife. I get no pleasure from it, but do pretend to to make my husband happy. What do I do about me.

Moved to its own thread because you originally posted on a three year old thread.

What do you do? You tell your husband what you're thinking, get your butt into counseling, and figure out your sexuality before you jump back into bed with ANYONE.

I agree with Synnen, let your husband know. Communication is a strong key in a relationship. Especially when it comes to the sex subject

I am finding that contrary to mens thinking patterns, it is quite common for women to at least be partially attracted to other women in some way. We can relate to eachtoher better, we can love each other better, and we are PROs at sex with other women. We know exactly what to do for each other, where as a man has to root around and find and learn about it lol.

From what I understand, it is common and normal for a perfectly straight woman to be atracted to other women in some ways.

Oh and the issue with not enjoying sex with your husband? He is doing it WRONG and you need to help him.
Even a lesbian can get PHYSICAL satisfaction from straight sex. That's why many gay women use dildos.

I want to address to things here.

First, it is common for women to think about other women. I think about certain women from time to time. I am attracted to women. I mean, cmon, the woman's body is a work of art. Beautiful!

Hell I've even been intimate with women.

I had a roommate a while back that was beautiful. We were very attracted to one another. From time to time, on lonely nights, we would go into each others bedrooms and satisfy our needs.

I loved the smell of her, the taste of her, how soft she was and passionate...

Point is, women are more delicate and we are in tune with each other.

Don't stress about that...

Now, I am concerned that you said it "was like a job". You shouldn't feel like that with your husband.

There is more to this than just your question.

Why do you feel this way?