How do I keep my husband from moving on but give him space and time to think?
My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years and together for 10, we have had a lot of the regular issues over the years, cheating, lying, time, money, sex. All the typical and workable issues. We have no abuse issues. We still live each other and I am still in love. Times have been hard and he has decided he wants a divorce. He will not discuss other options or solutions, just that he wants a divorce and that's that. He is very unhappy and has many things in his life that are causing it. I think he feels ending our marriage will magically fix his job, money, and growing up issues. I can't accept this. I feel we need work and so does he. I think he is just fed up with his life and needs some time to think. How do I give him space without making it seem like I accept this? We already are living apart and have been for our whole relationship so this makes it hard to talk to him daily since he can control answering the phone or emails. I have called him 2 or 3 times since he said it was over and have emailed him my feelings and thoughts, very constructively and hopeful not blaming or angry tone, and now I am trying to leave him alone to think. How do I give him this time but also not fall off his radar? I can't imagine that divorce is really going to solve his issue and we both still love and care about each other. I don't even know what to do, I am so wrecked over all of this.
Thanks