I have been in a relationship with a married guy for two years and we were high school sweet hearts. I left and haven't seen that person for 20 years and we picked up where we left off. I was forced to move due to family issues. I love him and he love me. I am in love with him and he is in love with me. I have tried to break it off serveral times and it felt as if my heart was breaking apart. We both started to cry and hold each other. We love each other and he is married with no kids. I don't want to hurt the other person, but every time I call he do come. How do I go about the break up?

Maybe you start by realising that if he wanted to be with you he would be.

Obviously the two of you shouldn't have picked up where you left off to begin with. Now you stop all communication with him, everything, and deal with the feelings of a broken heart for awhile.

Along with what QLP stated, consider that he is a known cheater and liar. Who's to say he hasn't been cheating on his wife with others along the way as well? If you did end up with him, how would you know he wouldn't cheat on you since it is obviously in his character to do so?

No doubt you believe he would never do such a thing because he loves you. However, it is likely his wife believes that as well, and look where it has gotten her.

Stop being selfish, tell him you can't see or talk to him anymore, he should either work on his marriage if he isn't happy or leave his wife.

You cry for awhile, then pick yourself up and, at some point, meet someone who is actually available.

I can't understand how you could do this to another woman. So little honour among cheaters. And this has been going on for TWO years??

What you can do, is just stop it. And, sorry to say, unless you have no more control over yourself than an animal in heat, I fail to see why you cannot.

Pardon my sarcasm, but do a little reading and see how lives are ruined by those that choose to screw another woman's husband- regardless of whether there are children in his marriage. Love is what he is supposed to have exclusively for his wife, and his wife only. Respect and boundaries are what you are supposed to have toward his wife. Even if he crosses the line, and instigates contact with you, that is not an excuse for you to reciprocate, and join him, in his betrayal of his wife.

You already know the facts. He's married. He's off limits. You choose to sleep with another woman's husband. You and him live a secret life based on lies, deceipt, stolen moments, and fantasy. That he is a cheater, makes you an accomplice. That he goes home to his wife, makes you an enabler. That you would choose a married man, over an available, single man, makes you one of those women who have no respect for other women.

At some point, his wife will catch on, and she too, will not buy the 'love' thing that 'suddenly' happened that stirred up 'love' from 20 years ago. What do you think will be the consequence of that. She will likely kick him to the curb, or, he will beg for forgiveness because he'll realize that he's made a big mistake. OR, they will attend counselling for months, trying to save their marriage. You in the meanwhile, may very well end up with a broken, broke, cheating, lying, man that you so casually hooked up with after 20 years, picking up his emotional baggage and empty bank account at the same time.

And then, he will likely cheat on you too.

You need to look no further to see that whatever reasons you have for doing what you are doing, don't hold water. And that the consequences will change lives forever. Including yours. Do the right thing, just tell him it is over. Period. No more cheating with another woman's husband.

Ask yourself this.

Does he really love you as much as you think?

If he did he wouldn't still be married to this other person. Period! Plain and simple!

What you're doing is disrespectful to yourself, this guy and his wife. Walk away before more happens ie: you get pregnant or his wife finds out. Sh1t like this ruins lives!

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but every time I call he do come. How do I go about the break up?

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Stop calling him, and stop using a broken heart as an excuse to be stupid.

Sorry, I didn't mean stupid, wait, yes I did because, its plain stupid to let your heart lead you down this stupid path.

If you really wanted advice, you should have asked how not to keep being stupid?.
The answer is easy, stop doing stupid things.

If he is so in love with you, then why is he still married to her?

He is playing with both of your heads. Making you feel loved and special. Then going home to his wife and doing the same for her.

I don't buy this crying crap on his part. He is playing the sensitive victim part, and I don't even know him, but I see right through him.

I do, however, believe that you are in love with him, which is why you need to leave him. Break it off.

I feel bad for his wife... You should to.

Lets just say hypothetically speaking, he did leave his wife. How can you be so sure he won't cheat on YOU?

Let's not forget the fact that you could get pregnant, then what?

Think about the future and what this could do to all of you. I see bad here.

End it and move on.

When you start to hold him, picture him holding and sleeping with his wife after he leaves you and goes home.

He does not "Love" you enough to leave his wife and be with you, you are a booty call, nothing more, nothing less.

Walk away, and hurt for a while then do better.