Boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me, advice please?
Pretty bummed, I don't usually do this kind of stuff, figured maybe it might help out a bit. My boyfriend of 3 years just broke up with me about 3 months ago (I am 22 and he is 23) so I do understand that we are still young. Anyway, he moved across country about 4 months ago while I was finishing up my last year of college here. He always said how much he wanted me to move out there, even wanted me to transfer colleges or something. I decided that would not be best for me and I needed to finish up here (in-state tuition/my friends are all here), but we still decided to make long distance work for a year. I was also really cool with the idea moving there, I would still get my own place and live my own life. He would always tell me that he still wanted me to move out there and a year would go by fast and we would be together. Well... then one day.. out of the blue he decided to end things. Whenever we first broke up he said that he does not know what he is looking for in a relationship.. I am amazing, beautiful, great to him (yeah, I know) but he needs time to ''find himself'' learn more about life/relationships before he makes such a big commitment and make sure we should be together long-term.. He said that he didn't see this the end of anything and you never know what could happen down the road but he will not rule out dating someone else eventually (even though he is not looking now/needs to get finances straight). He still wanted to remain very close, so stupid me did that. We still talked on the phone/text all the time. But I felt like it started to hurt me even more if we just remained this way. I was very upset by everything and finally decided to initiate ''no contact''. So it has been a couple days since and we have not spoke... it really sucks. Having false hopes maybe he will come around but guess we will see in time what is meant to happen. Yeah.
Any advice may help..
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Yep, and that is all that I can do. Realized maybe it is best if I do not move somewhere for a guy. If in time he does really want to be with me, he can chase after me.. if I am not already loving my new life.
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Yep, he was a great guy and we have had lots of memories together but I think he has lots of growing up to do too. He says you never know what can happen down the road but to not wait around me him... so I am not going to do that. Not worth it.