What do you do when your ex you went nc on calls you repeatedly in the beginning.
Well this is my story, I met this pretty lady, and felt I wanted to be with her the rest of my life. Quite unfortunately she was dating another guy. Then it happen, that they started having problems and I gave her shoulder to cry on.
One thing led to another, and we became best friends, then we started dating. Just weeks into it she started expressing worries that our friendship would be destroyed if we should break up.
Well I was willing to take that risk, but I also realized she was particularly attached to too many of her ex's, and found that to be a problem. Not only was she attached to her ex's, she has too many guy friends and didn't find anything wrong in leading guys on, so far as she is not sleeping with them, her words.
So anyway I considered all that and decided we should end it because I felt I wouldn't be able to deal with all that in the long run so its best I let her go now than to waist her time. Well knowing how breakups are I decided I was always going to be there for her despite everything , so for 10 months I had been there looking at her resume her day to day life with the guy as usual coming in her life and yes I can't complain because I said we should break up.
I still had hopes that her attitude will change and she will prove to me that she could do away with all the ex's and the guys she casually flirts with. I was wrong, but yet still I loved her so much and it hurt every time when I saw her gradually take me for granted and didn't realized I was back in the friendship zone.
I couldn't take it anymore because she started lying to me about she finding a new guy in her life all because she still wanted me in her life so she could do away with me slowly that way she doesn't feel the pain of losing me quickly. Long and short I decided after 10 months of being in the friendship zone to go NC because I couldn't stand the pain of watching her move on with her life with another guy and keep as just so she could let me go slowly, the lies also pushed me away.
Now after going on and off on NC , I have decided to stick to it , am now 6 days into full NC , well it hasn't been easy... my only problem is how do I maintain this whiles I live in the same neighborhood and go to the same church with this lady , I know when I pick her calls I will still be holding on to falls hopes, am a soft hearted guy and believe me its for me to see things end this way because I do love her but can't see myself being in her future, I must let things go , I must heal before I can establish any contact , but I miss her too, am confused WHAT DO I DO..?
PS: I HAVE TOLD MYSELF THAT I DID NOT WANT TO END THE YEAR FEELING ALL MISERABLE LIKE I AM RIGHT NOW , I WANT TO HEAL MYSELF BECAUSE OBVIOUS SHE HAS AND HAS MOVED ON SHE ONLY WANTS ME AS AS A FRIEND , JUST A FRIEND, STILL WANT TO BE HER FRIEND AFTER AM HEALED BUT NOT NOW... how long do I go on NC then ?