We have been married over 20 years. Even in his forties, he has the same libido he had at 18. I love sex, but I am not adventerous. He watches porn a lot and I think sometimes that he expects me to be like those women. It's unfortunate that the same thing turns me on as it always does, I understand he wants to mix it up, but I don't know what to do. At this point, the only thing I think will make him happy is a three way and that terrifies me. Any suggestions?

You have been married for 20years and if he gets off on porn and wants a 3way, but something like that scares you then this is what I would suggest, since Iam thinking we are about same age!!

Buy yourself a brand new slinky nightie put on some nice heels, have you hair all done, then appoarch him in the sexiest walk you can exaggerate and then hang him 2 blow up dolls and a bicycle pump and give him one heck sexy kiss and tell him"HAVE FUN WITH YOUR 3-WAY"!!

I wouldn't allow anyone including my husband to make me feel I have to do something that scares me or makes me feel less as a adult woman to get his attention or love---PERIOD Good luck

Just say no to the three way, many men "want or wish" but then find it ruins their marriage when they really do.

Or ask him what other man he wants, and that you did not know he wanted to have sex with another man ( that may shut him up)

But there are many things a married couple can do, sex games, role playing, dress up and more.

Can't you compromise, and try something's that turn him on? Besides a 3 way that is. You don't have to be a porn star to satisfy your man, just creative. Watch porn with him, as my gosh you have been married 20 years and should know what you can do without hurting yourself. Why be so selfish in bed when you have been together so long? You have to compromise on something, or make porn your competition instead, of a shared experience