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  • Nov 29, 2010, 09:58 AM
    GYEAH
    Is my fiancé bi sexual?
    OK, so I have only been with this guy for 8 months but we are madly in love. In the beginning of our relationship I used to think his best and only friend was gay because he is such a pretty boy and he calls my man all day everyday like two best girlfriends would. I asked him and he was like no, actually he's a womanizer, if only you knew you would wonder why you even asked me that. So fastforward to last week. I needed to use my fiance's personal laptop. I start looking up www.t and all this transexual stuff came up! (I was trying to get to turbotax.com) it was like tranny sex, amd transexual type stuff. I didn't go to any of the sites I was so appaled I closed the computer shut! But I couldn't keep it inside so the next day I asked him about it and told him what sites I saw. All he said was no I don't go to sites like that but I do look up a lot of anal sex stuff. I accepted it and let it go because obviously he didn't want to talk about it. He wasn't mad, or nervous or anything like that. But I just keep thinking in my head the only way it will come in your browser is if you actually went to the site, right? Even your Google history isn't in your browser history! Do I believe him? Or is he bisexual? HELP:(
  • Nov 29, 2010, 10:30 AM
    tickle

    Does it matter. Does it mean you love him less? Just because those sites were on his laptop doesn't mean he is bisexual. But, what is wrong with bisexual? You love him the way he is right now.

    Tick
  • Nov 29, 2010, 11:11 AM
    Synnen

    1. What difference does it make? Bisexuals are attracted to BOTH sexes, but they don't need both at the same time to be happy. It's like you're attracted to Johnny Depp AND Leonardo DiCapprio, but would you want to date BOTH at the same time? (just examples).

    2. Porn has pop-ups. You get all SORTS of weird things in the history when you search porn.

    3. Tranny sex and bisexuality are two very different things.

    4. Get over it. He answered your questions. You now choose to either trust him or not. If you don't trust him, then end the relationship. If you do trust him, then you believe him, and this doesn't matter in the least.
  • Nov 29, 2010, 11:58 AM
    smoothy

    Lots of people watch porn that is NOT their particular orientation.

    Its called curiousity.
  • Nov 30, 2010, 10:31 AM
    i_love_iphones
    Ask him if he is gay,trans,bi whatever you want to call it. It sounds like he hasn't come to terms with his sexuality. Maybe he's bi curious. Talk to him.
  • Dec 2, 2010, 07:57 AM
    jupiter6921
    Straight guys look at ALL KINDS of porn. The normal sexy kind. The weird and kinky kind. The freaks and geeks kind. Everything. Believe me. We even laugh about the weird and gross **** together. Don't worry. It means nothing. It's just porn.
  • Dec 2, 2010, 08:49 AM
    CravenMorhead

    People often question their significant other because they have such power to hurt them. You have asked the questions and it seems like you've got an honest answer. Believe him.

    I don't know if he is bisexual and truth be told it doesn't even matter. He is in a committed and monogamous relationship with you.

    Jupiter6921 hit another point. Porn is a seed for fantasy. It often isn't an indication of desires. It is often just background noise will we fantasize about something off. It isn't really anything to be concerned about. If he was looking up illegal stuff then I would be concerned. That is the only case.

    Accept and trust what your Fiancée is saying.

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