Girlfriend broke up after 3 years, what should I do?
Well me and my girlfriend met in high school we were complete opposites in many ways and had a 3 year age difference her being 14 and me 17, eventually we started going out but our freedom at the time was minimal since both our parents were the strict kind and we thought it would cause conflict with how different we were too. We use to meet up everyday and as time went on we got more freedom as I met all her family and got along with them but there was always issues between her brother and a few of her friends and me. We never took this serious and just worked around it as her brother didn't live at home. The only other problems we had during this time was she wasn't use to the hole commitment thing and wouldn't realise when she done something wrong but she was always keen on improving and learning and said we should talk wenever something's wrong to fix it.
This carried on and we got closer and closer up till about 2 years, then we had this one talk about how there was some changes she wanted badly and didn't want to wait on, she wanted to be a part of my family but my family only consists of my brother and dad and there the kind that done there own thing everyday no bonding or family time at all. But her family was the hole family dinner/vaction/trip type so she always had a hard time understanding why I found it hard to do certain things with my family. Although I fitted in well into her families lifestyle. Another thing she is a very sensitive type of person who wants to show there deepest feeling and our love in public but I was more the opposite with the whole hiding your emotions and that showing feelings made you weak (due to my neighbourhood and rough childhood) but to her I always fully opened up its just when other people were involved I wouldn't. Another thing she really hated is she would want to organise plans weeks prior but with my lifestyle I was use to planning things as they came, I would try to split time between my friends and my girlfriend equally and told her to do the same but she would want to be with me 80% of the time.
Now coming only our 3year anniversary her being 17 and me 20, everything was going smooth up until now only times we would argue is when any female tried to talk to me she had a jelousy issue. We had a romantic outing for our 3year she was happy, we were very committed at this point always talking about our future and her always talking about when we can have a baby and things. A lot of my close friends were all in long term relationships too so we could go out as couples now and then and she got close with a lot of my friends although I still wasn't close with hers. It was a week before our end of year exams/tests and she said she needed to talk and out of no where said she can't do this anymore and that we are just TOO different for each other. That she wanted the following changes but she didn't want to wait any more... do things with my family, me being close with her friends, me making more commitments, me showing affection in public. So after a big talk we decided to keep it going and try fix the issues but agreed it would take a few weeks due to exams.
Once exams had finished she str8 away said she needed to talk again and it ended up being the same reasons. So it officially ended over those reasons how she didn't want to wait for any changes and that she needed space but our relationship is not want she wants at this time. I spend the next day deperessed thinking about everything and it was a big reality check for me, I changed a lot of things that day and the next to represent a new better me and spent those days with a lot of friends talking to them about it half telling me to fight for her back and others to give her space and she would come back. So the next 3 days after that I started doing romantic things for her everyday to do with special memories we had that I would never normally do, her sister was telling me when she saw these things she would break down and cry. After the 3rd day her friend came on Facebook and I had a big talk about everything to her and she told me to stop the romantic things and give her space.
So I accepted that and didn't make any contact for about 4 days, then on Facebook my girlfriend started talking to me saying when I want to swap back a few of our belongings we had and then the conversation went to what we have been up too and what we done in the weekend, and through it she tried to assure me that there's no other guy in the picture that she's just been with friends. The next day I went over to her house to swap back a few things and we ended up talking for about an hour about the same things, nothing to do about the old 'us' though, and she brought up if we should be friends or if its too soon.
Since then its been about 3 days which comes to now, we have been talking on Facebook about once a day when we were both online, we talk as friends but there a bit of flirting now and then and reminiscing about things we no about each other if the topics came up through chat. When we were talking about me going to the clubs she sort of got jelous saying am I going to find me some girls and I said no way and made it clear its not what I wanted but I asked her it back, she said the same saying guys have been tryna talk to her now that she's single but she's been denying them all (thats the kind of girl she is when girls try to be smooth with her)
That leaves me to where I am now, I really want her back and to show her that I can change and that I'm much more serious about it now that I've had a big reality check. All her friends that are support her dislike me so tell her to move on but my friends that she knows well have tried talking sense into her that these small reasons arnt worth a break up. What should I do now should I keep talking to her and flirt more maybe give her signs? Or do I play it cool until she makes the moves? Ive been hesitant to wait too long though since in about 20 days she goes overseas for a month plus its my birthday in a week and she's alredy said she would come hang out for a little.