I'm falling in love with my childhood friend, but I'm in a relationship and been in one for ten years now. I'm not happy at all in this relationship. Its hard because we share three kids together. I don't know what to do, because my heart is some where else

When you say you are not happy, do you mean you are kind of fed up, and wonder what you saw in him, and don't seem to have a lot to talk about besides the children and whose turn it is to pay the bills? Or do you mean he's abusive?

If it's the first one, then this is normal for a ten year relationship that involves three children. Usually some time and attention can remind you of why you chose this man to have children with.

In the meantime, your childhood friend is there and is looking good. Just remember, you knew this man for a long time, and never fell in love with him before. It's very likely a case of the grass being greener on the other side.

Falling in love with someone outside the home is so easy when you are so unhappy at home, but have you talked to your partner and tried to resolve it in any way?

Sure you may be stuck for now but, having something on the side will only distract you from solving whatever is wrong at home. That makes things worse, not better, and I am quite sure that anything would look better than what you have now.

Don't know how your friend feels, but crossing the lines of good behavior, whatever feelings you are having before trying to make your own home a happy one, can only hurt your kids at this time, and I hope you make them the priority now, not a friend who may, or may not feel the same as you do, so be cautious of falling for something that looks good because your miserable, and is not a permanent fix, as a sympathetic ear, and a few laughs is hardly a long term plan for happiness nor does this help at home.

Take care of home first, whether you want to leave or stay, before you get all bogged down with juggling two lives. That would be your first responsibility, and if you cannot focus on home, leave the friend alone until you can. We all need friends, but not when they prevent us from taking care of responsibilities, and promises.

You need to think of yourself. Don't do things to keep other people happy. Your kids will forgive you, they will want what's best for you. Nothing is worse than seeing your mother unhappy with her life, believe me I know. I would talk to this 'friend' and see how they feel about you, you know? I believe that things will honestly work out in the end however they are meant to. Do what makes you happy. Everyone will forgive you. And if they don't then they shouldn't be in your life anyway. Like I said just talk to your husband and your 'friend' to see how this makes them feel. Hope this was helpful. Good luck (:

I agree with that the grass always seems greener on the otherside. Don't you think that your partner might also feel that this relationship is in a RUT. It doesn't mean its over, just means that your feeling a little bored,unappreciated,unloved,and you self esteem is low. So when someone comes along and makes all these feelings go away and replaces them with flirtation,passion,tells us how much they want us, boy it sure looks greener!! But you need to remember it wasn't this childhood friend that you chose to have 3 children with and be with for 10years!

Give your partner a chance, tell him how unhappy you are, and that you want to get into some counseling, remember he could be feeling just as unhappy as you are! See if you can salvage this relationship. Don't throw away yourself respect by cheating!

I don't believe its okay to just do whatever makes us feel good if doing so makes us give up our integrity, self respect, morals!! We do have the ability to know the difference between right and wrong, isn't that what we teach our CHILDREN!!

Just End the Other Relationship and Go Fall in love with your Childhood friend.Plain and Simple.

Step 1:Walk up to your current lover
Step 2:slap Him
Step 3:Tell him your Relationship is over
Step 4:Go to your childhood friend
Final Step:Find a Way to Bump Into and accidentally Touch Lips With each other

I hope this Helps