I've been with my boyfriend for the last 1,5 years, he is
My first serious relationship, and the first and only man
I've had sex with as well. There are some things that
Are bothering me, and since I don't have any previous
Experience to compare with, It's a bit difficult.

The thing is- my boyfriend loves masturbating, which
Would have been fine, if I didn't think that he prefers
It to having sex with me. He says that sex is tiring,
But he's quite fit anyway. Even when I'm on top it feels
As though he's doing it for me most of the time.
Don't get me wrong- we do have sex, and he does
Have a strong sex drive- he does masturbate in bed
Almost every night after all, but why do so, instead of
Having sex with me!

I love him very much, and I know he does love me too,
And I know (well, hope ;)) I'm not rubbish in bed.
Plese, tell me that it's normal, and all men do so, and
It's only me being stupid!

Thanks!

Why don't you two masterbate together. Why do you not masterbate for him. Play with him. Let him masterbate you. Fingers and all. Instead of him doing on his own all the time. Why do you not do it for him. It is a lot more fun that way.

Your Welcome.

While some is normal, it appears to be more of a habit or adiction at this point. I would say first there is no normal, since everyone's sexual desires and habits are different.

Does he get into and have any issues with PORN?

Also is he doing it more than just every night, And have you asked him.
Also is his actions solo, with you there, together helping each other?

You hit the nail on the head- it is a habit. And he does
It in front of me- what I wouldn't have any problem
With, if it was not so often for the sake of sex!

We did have an issue about the Porn, but he
Promissed (and I trust him)to stop with it because
Was bothering me.


And yes- we do all that- let me tell you, I'm quite an
Open-minded-ready-to-experiment kind of person-
I enjoy watching Porn myself, and would love it if
We could watch together, but he wouldn't.

Anyway, thanks guys.

I don't think you are being stupid. I think he has a problem and you should both speak to a councillor. This is going to get very tiresome very soon, if it isn't already. Nothing wrong with masturbating alone or together but on his own every night with you watching?