So I started this new job and this guy that works there walks over to me and starts talking to me. He said that group of them are going for some beers and asked if I wanted to go , so I gave him my number . Ended up not going . So he texted he saying "Hey good lookin looks like we aren't going . So I told him next time . Then he started saying that Im hot and my butts nice . So I started to flirt back with him. You know just playin around . Then he tells me he's "hot" for me . I was like WHAT!!! I don't even know you, we just met like 4 hrs ago. I told him I just wanted to be friends, hes said ok . Then he didn't text me for a week and then he did sayin "Hey there sexy " , so i texted back , just saying hi and hows it going. He said hes been thinking about me and hes still hot for me . I told him we can talk and be friends . He told me he just wants to "play with no lay" what?. I don't wonderstand . Then I asked him out , so he texted back LOL . I really don"t understand.. Its like he wants to go out but just wants a lay.. But he keeps saying no I just want to talk . I feel stupid cause
I really don't know... help!

It means you don't mind men you don't know being very forward with you. And now most likely every man in the office has a wrong ( I guess) opinion of you.

I would simply stop flirting with this guy, period. Don't mix work with dating. Do you even know this guy, is he married,engaged, or does he have notches taken out of his desk for how many woman he gets to sleep with him from office. Its never good idea to give someone you work with wrong impression, the men that he works with are probably aware of you giving your number, and if your going to be the next notch!

Just tell him your invovled with someone and that your not interested other then a business relationship. Advise him to only contact you on your business phone for future contacts, and it should be pertaining to business, let him know that you appreciate his professional understanding.

Good luck

I think you better back up and get the lay of the land before you get sucked into a bad situation in a strange new environment with strangers you know nothing about.

Going out with the first guy who flirts with you in a new workplace is utter lunacy, don't you think? Back up and pay attention and learn more if your not understanding what's going on.

Being the first to lay the new girl at work is an old game, so watch yourself!! Everybody else is, maybe with a few bets on the side.