Hie I'm in love with a person from past one year... we both like each other a lott... n v both belong to same caste but the problem is that he is one year younger to me... n other problem is that finalcial status... compared to his family, our family is well settled... I really don't take these all as problems but my parents are so much against this... I really donno how to convence my parents... I can't leave my parents as well as this guy... as we are in engg final year my father wants me to marry as soon as I complete my engg... I told my parents about him... they said NO I really had the worst time... n I told this to him and we broke up... but then v couldn't stop talking to each other again we are the same and talking to each other without my parents notice... I really love him a lott... but my parents are very serious about this... please someone help me how can I convence my parents... ***...

How old are you?

If you are an adult, then really you don't need your parents blessing.

If you are not an adult yet, then take a deep breath, relax, and wait. When you become and adult then you can do as you wish.

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Originally Posted by jenniepepsi

how old are you?

if you are an adult, then really you dont need your parents blessing.

if you are not an adult yet, then take a deep breath, relax, and wait. when you become and adult then you can do as you wish.

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From the OP's post it may not be as simple as that Jennie.

She speaks of caste, she's obviously not in the US, and her parents are setting a date for when they want her to be married. It sounds like she may face an arranged marriage if she can't find someone that her parents deem suitable.

My apologies. I forget that this is a website all around the world and not just in the U.S

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

From the OP's post it may not be as simple as that Jennie.

She speaks of caste, she's obviously not in the US, and her parents are setting a date for when they want her to be married. It sounds like she may face an arranged marriage if she find someone that her parents deem suitable.

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Even though my friend was born and raised in the U.S. she is still required by her parents to marry within their caste and they expect her to be married by the time she is 22. Some traditions carry over. But there would still be no way of convincing her parents to let her marry anyone outside of the caste, she would be disowned if she did.

And in some cultures it is beyond disowning, the girl could risk injury or death for insulting or disobeying her parents ( disrespect)

I feel bad to hear your story, just because can just imagine exactly what you are going through because I come from a background where my parents permission matter a lot and we have some traditions that we 'must' follow. I have been dating a guy for over 1 yr and at first my parents were against it and they told me if I don't stop seeing him they would disown me, so I kept seeing him secretly. Point is with time, I kept fighting and fighting for him and now it has come to a point where they got the chance to know him and respect him. My point is I know it seems very hard at the moment, but just give them time and don't let them push to a point where it hurts your relationship. Make sure you make it clear to your boyfriend how you feel and tell him that 'even though your parents are against it, you will continue to fight for him because your guys truly love one another'. You have to fight for what you believe. You parents love you dearly but the reason why they are acting this way is because they grew up with this mentality and they don't know better. Pray to god, and tell your parents and your boyfriend that you love them. Fight for what you want and believe is right!

Another point I wanted to make is ask yourself 'is he worth the fight?" make a list of the good qualities and bad and ask yourself is he worth it? Also, I hope you are at least over 23 yrs old because if you are not, I feel you have a lot more to learn about life (no offense to anyone out there). The older you get the wiser you get, and the more you learn about life and learn to accept what's truly more important in life! If he loves you and if you guys truly have a relationship full of love and respect and level of maturity then you both will wait, and with time your parents will change their view.