If your spouse wants to go to a friends b-day party on the night when you want to do something for your b-day and yes it's the only day available for the next two weeks what do you do?

Spouses come before friends. If you can't do both on the same night, you're birthday should be the priority.

I agree with learning.

You're Birthday shold be top priority. At least, that's how I feel about it.