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  • Nov 16, 2010, 02:07 PM
    tommy69
    Confused on where I stand and wondering if she still actually cares anymore...
    Hey all this is the first time that I have written on here. Its about my ex girlfriend, we have been apart for around 3 months now, but I still miss her after all this time. We had a great relationship and I don't know the really reason why she ended it. Since we have split have we have had brief contact mostly arguments about her accusing me of stuff or vice versa. About 2 days ago my friend seen a post on the social network site (facebook) that she was in a relationship with another boy, so I text her asking if it was true or not and seemed a bit angry and upset towards her in the message. She rang me instantly saying it wasn't true, after I checked her account and it said that she was. She always tells me that she wants me out of her life and she doesn't love me anymore, but then she finds out that I am talking to other girls out of the blue she goes crazy on me! I just don't get it. Since we split up we haven't had one decent conversation its always been her accusing me of something or teling me to back off. I gave her a message yesterday saying I miss us and I know its been a while since we've finished but I do still miss her and I hate it when we argue all the time, I haven't had a reply. Can anyone help me on what to do... thanks
  • Nov 16, 2010, 02:44 PM
    mmresd
    What you need to do is get over her... stop playing her dumb games and don't let her push you around and play you like a fool. Cut contact with her, the feelings of love will one day die, give yourself time to heal. Look for someone that takes you seriously, not someone who takes you as a joke, she is playing games with you, and to tell you the truth is a bunch of BS! But anyway, why is it that you want to be with a person that is like that? She doesn't deserve you, and you don't benefit from this relationship at all, since all you two do is fight nowadays, you guys are through so get over it man, find someone else. She wants to have you wrapped around her little finger, that is why she gives you hint of hope, but it is all fake, so move on with your life and show her how it feels to be without you! And if she gets mad because you are trying to move on by talking to other girls just ignore her, not only will it allow you to move on, but it will give you confidence because you choose to leave, you were not made to leave. So do it with your head being held high and don't let a girl that is not even your girlfriend bring you down.

    Good Luck,

    Javi
  • Dec 13, 2010, 01:41 PM
    Checkerrrd.
    I have been I a situation like this before, its tough but honestly if she says that she no longer wants to see you then she proably means it. When I went through this it took me a long time to be able to finally move on. And her reaction about other girls in your life, well mainly if you two were really close or were together for a long time she proably hasn't fully moved on yet either. Things like that take time to recover, even more if you two were in love. Love is a change your life sinario, and when it has been broken well... it will take time to heal every time. Have you ever heard the saying... "Girls hurt more, Guys hurt longer"?? Well iin my experiences with myself and friends I have found this to be quite acurate. Just give yourself time, you will find that one person who will love you unconditionally no matter what. But remember... you need to be willing to accept that kind of love. You can't put barriers up from getting hurt again, like I did. It just causes yourself more pain. I hope this helped, Good Luck!

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