Ask Me Help Desk - I like her

OK so I'm not very good with grammar, so I'm going to apologize upfront. Anyway there is this girl I like, and I have a friend who says he is dating her. The problem is I'm not one hundred percent he is telling the truth. One thing is while she does hang out with him some, and I think she enjoys his company. She is always flirting and texting me. Texting me cause she lives like an hour and a half away. Another thing is they seem distant he seems to be more interested in her then her in him, and on his face book it says in a relationship with her. One her face book it says single and looking. One of her friends is having a b day party, and she asked her if she could invite someone. Instead of inviting him she invited me instead, and keeps telling me how she wants to be with me. She tells me that I've made her happy again, and not numb anymore she even told me she lovelikes me, which I don't completely understand. I want her by my side I do, and if I got a chance id be with her in a second. Please help me get things though threw, and if you need more details I will be checking about and il add more as it develops.

The first thing to do when wanting to be with someone is making sure they're not with someone else. Make sure she isn't dating your friend. If she is then I would suggest walking away, getting yourself into a threeway tussle is never good. Especially when friends are involved. If she is single, then it's fair game. Enjoy! Sounds like she's into you!

OK, I'll only make one comment, because the rest is irrelevant in my mind. You make her feel not "numb"? That's some major issues my friend, and waaaay more responsibility than you want to step in. Step in like poo, trust me, this is the kind of situation that will end badly. I really doubt you'll take my advice, but please think about it. Good luck.

I think I can understand the 'not numb' comment... she may be reluctant at this stage of lovelike (I'd call that just 'likes you a lot') to say that she is more excitedly happy talking with you than with others, so is trying to tone it down. I'd take it slowly but positively. Just keep doing what you are doing. None of us has the answers for anything about what someone else will think, feel, and do next, and we can only interpret her from your words.

have you heard the expression "bro's before hoe's"?? ( as mean as it sounds toward females it's used all the time amongst kids... ). I mean it's the male version of "girl code", it means: don't put a girl before our friendship EVER. Second of all, have you thought to straight up tell her that your friend thinks he's dating her? I mean, reality is perception and in his head he's dating this girl. Does he have her name written after "in a relationship" on Facebook? Anyhow, the fact is... even if he sort of kind of liked her... he LIKESSSS HER DUDE so prioritize! Use your mouth and ask her... are you dating my friend? She'll say "sorta" and then HOPEFULLY you'll see her for what she is.

This girl knows you both are friends and you both like her... she's playing you OR him. She has both of you by the b*lls and she's enjoying the power. Why would you put a GIRL between your friendship? What bad stuff has he done to YOU to make you want to this him?. that's the bottom line! You should tell him what she's up to. There's a million girls out there that will text you sweet nothings michael. Why mess with your friendship..

Hey dude, I believe that if your friend really likes this girl you should at least give him a chance to get with her. If that fails and she is still following you then tell your friend and tell him what you are planning to do. At this point, he should realize that she doesn't want to be with him, and that he should respect your decision of being with her as you respected his. If not, then you have two option, do you think she is worth your friendship with your friend? Because most likely you will crucify the friendship if you go through with this girl when you clearly know that he likes her a lot. But it is ultimately your call.

Good Luck,

Javi

Quote:

Originally Posted by BrandonGT

ok, I'll only make one comment, because the rest is irrelevant in my mind. You make her feel not "numb"? That's some major issues my friend, and waaaay more responsibility than you want to step in.

It's probably just a poor choice of words, remember, this is all through text messages.

Take IT's advice, be certain she's not dating your buddy before you make a move, you can just ask her.