Keeping friends during a relationship
Okay... I have this friend who I have been friends with since May 2006. She moved to my small town where her dad and brother lives and I got to know her well through knowing them. We would hang out every weekend. We have a lot of good times and told each other that we feel like we've been friends forever!
She use to live in a state away but moved back and lived with her dad because her boyfriend died of heart problems. She is 26 years old and her boyfriend was 29 years old. I tried to help her deal with her grief but she would excessively drink and I felt more like a babysitter!:rolleyes: But, I delt with it, although tried to talk her out of drinking so much, but I don't know how I would have handled losing someone that I was "in love" with.
This last November, she decided to finally quit drinking and see a counselor. (She use to get so drunk that I would have to carry her into her house and she'd be kicking and screaming and would say bad things to me but the next morning, she wouldn't remember saying any of that stuff).
Anyway... at the beginning of December, she started dating this really nice guy where we live. He treats her well and she seems to really be getting her life back together! Only problem is, now we have no contact unless I stop to see her at her place of business (she owns a salon). I've called a couple of times and left messages and tried texting her with no repsonse back but yet when I see her around town, she acts like we are best of friends. I seen her last night at the bowling alley with her boyfriend and she said hi and I said a simple "hi", finished my game of bowling and left. I know she could tell that I am a little upset with her!
My question is... why do friends foreget their "friends" when they start seeing/dating someone? Is this normal? Is this healthy? Am I being selfish?
I'm hurt and confused right now and I miss my friend. I have several other friends that call or that we hang out together!