Hi,

I've been in a relationship of 5 months with my ex-girlfriend and it was my first serious relationship. At the beginning it was just for fun (sex essentially) but she was really in love with me and she even cried because I was not feeling exactly the same at the moment... but after a while I said I loved her to not lose her.. but every time I was uncertain of what I was feeling for her. So during this relationship she was really kind with me but I was not kind as her (and yes I made a lot of mistakes). In the last month I realize that I was really in love with her and try change my attitude and everything and then she left me. I felt like dying. Never in my life I felt so much emotions and pain, it was so unexpected. I tried to change is mind but it was really over for her even if she felt strong feelings about me even after the breakup. So months have passed ( almost 5 by now ) and she got a new boyfriend about a month ago (another punch in the face) which seems to be good-looking, taller, cooler.. everything. I had some ups.. some downs but everyday it feels like I'm more in love with her and I have good reason because she's very attractive and even my friends will tell you.. she had something special. But I was a fool and it was my first love and I was afraid, to tell you the truth even if I seem to be a very confident joking guy who handle everything perfectly in his life. I have good friends , a good family, a good job and I'm young (21) . But life has given me love and I screwed up. Now I go out, have some fun, do sports, but nothing is the same as before I met this girl, just can't stop thinking about it. So now what do I do ? Please help me because in my heart, she's the only thing I really care for. I'm stuck.

Well it depends what you actually want to do. If you want to be with her I suggest you let her know about your feelings, if you want to move on, then disappear from her life.

For sure I want to be with her and she already know that... but to tell her my feelings by now with the fact that she is starting a new relationship will probably cause her confusion and I will get rejected once again... wich will bring me back to breakup day 1. So I feel trapped and to be in this situation for the 1st time is also very confusing. I keep telling myself to let it be, someday it will get better and life has so much more to offer, I stay positive but she's always on my mind whatever where I am or what I do...

Ya, its not exactly a good thing to tell her your feelings when she has a boyfriend. That's what I'm saying, you either try to win her over now and possibly regret for the rest of your life, or you decide to move on and in order to do that you disappear from her life. Those are pretty much your two choices so its up to you which you pick.